I Dropped My Baby

I’m so distraught!! My 5 week old infant was fussy all day because he was gassy. I finally got him right so I wanted to keep up with burping him to make sure he didn’t have to go through that again. I was trying to get him to burp and I fell asleep. He wiggled out of my arms somehow and hit the floor with a thud.. he started crying bloody murder.

I checked him over and he’s fine after he got over the initial scare of falling. It’s been a few hours and he’s back to being happy and laughing and has no movement issues. I’m way more shook up than he was.

I just feel so bad.. I don’t trust myself and I can tell my husband was really angry. He snapped at me and I know I deserved it but it really hurt my feelings. I know I will NEVER drop my baby again but I really feel like I’m not fit to be his mother 💔 Here I have this prefect little blessing and I can’t even be trusted to keep him safe 🥺

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Don’t be so hard on yourself! This is the hardest stage when it comes to tiredness, god knows how many times I fell asleep holding my baby! These things happen and like you have said it won’t happen again as you will be more aware and cautious! You are doing a great job, you are just a very tired new mum, your baby is happy and safe don’t let it get you down! Xx

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When my baby was 3 months, we were on our way to the doctors for a regular check up, we were carrying her in the car seat as it was literally just a 5 min walk from the car to the doctors office, so we decided not to strap her in. Well guess what, after few steps she slid off and fell face first on the pavement! I was mortified!! She had a nose scratch and was crying soo much!!
She was fine, only the small scratch, and after 30 min she was back on being happy and smiling.
It's totally normal! We are only humans and we will make mistakes sometimes. If your little one is okay, you will be eventually too😊 however this will stay with you forever and moving forward you will probably be super extra careful😊 which is also totaly normal. Give yourself a break, you have given birth just 5 weeks ago, you are probably hungry, sleep deprived, etc. It's okay, everything is okay! If you do notice some changes in his sleep/feed just ring your GP and explain the situation 🫶🏻 sending you love!

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My boy has rolled off my bed so many times i lost track, they do like you to be aware of shaken baby syndrome but also your baby is durable! I told my doctor at his next check up after the first time i dropped him and she told me not to stress and to just keep an eye on bub if she/he starts acting out of sorts or crying without settling then take her for a check but take it from a mum who has dropped both her babies more then once, these things happen and if baby isnt showing any signs of distress that are unusal for her then she most likely will be ok, just wait until she starts crawling and trying to stand she will have bumps and bruises all over from little falls she will be ok ❤️

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was she not strapped in while in the car? 🤔 I’m so confused by this 🙈

I’m not judging btw, I am honestly just confused. I have a blow up chair for my girl and she sits in it while I make dinner etc. last week she managed to throw herself out of it and landed in the sink 🤦🏼‍♀️

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You sound exhausted maybe instead of snapping your husband needs to take his child and let you get some sleep. Be kind to yourself, you're still recovering. Your baby is okay and you're capable of taking care him - it was an accident, you won't find a single parent that hasn't at least bumped their babies head on a car, made them bleed clipping their nails, scratched them etc. None of us are perfect xx

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Don’t be so hard on urself. It happens to loads! I dropped mine out the bed at 4 weeks 😬. He’s fine! My mate dropped hers, twice, while walking down the stairs!!! (Around 3 and 5 weeks) She’s fine too. My baby dad went down the stairs TWICE in his walker (why on earth his mum didn’t learn her lesson the first time is beyond me) it happens, the kids are fine, we learn (well most of us 🙄) and move on. Don’t stress hunnie. The fact ur stressing soo much only shows what a good mum you are 💙

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@Lauryn she was, but it was winter so before we took her outside we had to undo the straps to put her in her snowsuit, which was made from that slippery material and we should have known better that she might slip but yeah, learned from that mistake very quickly

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I remember the feeling when I almost dropped my first baby because I was so exhausted during those first couple of months. That's when I decided to start co-sleeping so that I wouldn't drop her while trying to stay awake breastfeeding her for 1½ hours every 3 hours. Of course, knowing the precautions with co-sleeping is vital, but I felt like it was a great fit for us. Had to get a rail though because they all rolled off at some point.

When my 12 year old was little, I accidentally dropped her. I still don't know how what happened exactly. I was pretending to drop her and was catching her as she was falling, but that one time my reaction just wasn't quick enough and she slipped through my hands. I felt like such a horrible mom at that moment. I was just trying to play with my baby girl and show her love. She was having fun too until I dropped her. 🥺 She was okay though, but you need to understand that we ALL make mistakes. We just have to learn from them and please don't beat yourself up about it. ❤️

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you don’t deserve to be yelled at you and hubby have to give yourself grace.. newborn stage is tough and exhausting no mom is perfect but to our little ones we’re the best people in world🩵 i fell asleep with my little one in my arms when he was 2-3 weeks and he was damn near flipped over on his face when i woke up and accidentally yelled at him out of frustration.. remember if you weren’t or deserved to be a mom you wouldn’t have been chosen to be one🩵

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ahhh that makes total sense now! No coats in the car seat is a nightmare and completely understandable why you didn’t strap baby back in! That must have been super scary for you though

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It was horrible feeling seeing her laying on her front and crying. Bless her. I also felt like the worst mum ever, but she was okay. And me and my husband never did that mistake ever again! 😊 it's hard being a first time parent, no idea what you are doing, but as I said we are all humans and we will make mistakes, we just have to learn from them and be better 😊

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I about had a heart attack when my girl fell from her chair into the sink! She’s never lifted herself up like that before and it happened so quickly before I had time to react, I literally turned my back for 1 second 🙈 thankfully it was in the sink and not down to the floor but I won’t let her sit there anymore, now she has to go on the floor and she just screams at me 😅
Accidents are called accidents for a reason, we don’t plan these things but they do happen, plus, babies are wriggly, slippery little buggers 😂

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Don’t be hard on yourself but definitely get him checked properly

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Don’t be too hard on yourself but at 5 weeks you should probably take him to the hospital to get checked

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When my daughter was 4 days old, I slipped at the top of our staircase aaaaalll the way down with her. I was so traumatized, we had to move houses and I still can’t walk downstairs without holding on to the bannister tightly.

Things happen, it’s not your fault and it wasn’t on purpose - forgive yourself

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