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How to overcome worry

This is my 3rd pregnancy. My 1st was a missed miscarriage and 2nd I had my girl who is now almost 2 years old. I’m only 4+3 currently but wow the worry and anxiety has hit me hard. I’m particularly worried about an ectopic pregnancy but this fear just seems so irrational. I’ve no reason to believe it’s ectopic and I don’t have any risk factors. I’ve managed to convince myself that I can feel mild shoulder pain but I don’t know if it’s just my mind playing tricks on me because I’m so anxious. I’m meant to be working but I’ve just laid down on the sofa for 20 minutes because I read on a random internet site that ‘ectopic shoulder pain gets worse when you lie down’ so ofcourse I had to do it to try and give myself some reassurance. I wish I could just delete any knowledge of ectopic symptoms from my brain as it’s all I think about. How is anyone else coping with the worry and anxiety? We’re going to book a private scan for around 7 weeks but I don’t know how I’m going to get through the next 2 weeks without sending myself crazy. I have a history of health anxiety and have had CBT twice so I’m aware that I’m being irrational and trying to use techniques I’ve been taught but it’s so hard.

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I’m also worried about it and have already booked a scan for the 26th. In order to make myself feel better I keep doing tests every day. Doesn’t make much of a difference I know, but I get some reassurance 😅 We can only wait and be patient now 😢

@Christina I’ve been doing tests everyday too 😫 I didn’t do this in my previous 2 pregnancies so I don’t know why I’ve started doing it now! Bought another pack of 5 today. Feel like I’m going crazy!

It’s my second one and I was the same with the first. It’s just such a worrying stage. I’m originally from Greece and people there go to their doctor weekly if they want and have scans (privately but for reasonable cost). Plus it’s way cheaper to test hcg through blood tests for reassurance. Fingers crossed it’s all ok, just a bit if a waiting game.

I am feeling exactly the same - I’m nearly at the end of my two week wait (I have a 7 week scan on Monday) and I’m sooo anxious. I have fully convinced myself I’m having ectopic too or maybe a missed miscarriage? I just read up on stuff and have really toxic thoughts. I just try remind myself what will be will be and it’s out of my control! All you can do is try stay positive and don’t read any more upsetting things - it’s good you know the symptoms but keep busy - otherwise you’ll drive yourself crazy!!

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