Fiancé cheating while I’m pregnant

Need some advice.. or maybe just support. I am currently 34 weeks pregnancy with my first baby and I just found out my fiancé is cheating on me. My world is broken and I am not sure what I can do. I am supposed to be having a baby with this man and marrying him. I don’t even know what to feel. I don’t want to be a single mother or bring my baby into a broken family already, but I also can’t imagine being able to trust him and build the life we were planning. I am so hurt and confused

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I'm so sorry you're going through this, I can't imagine how you must feel because being pregnant is already a lot to deal with. I wish I had some good advice but honestly I believe deep down you may know what to do. Your happiness and your child's happiness far outweighs the ongoing mistrust, infidelity, deceit and betrayal that you are currently going through and may have to continue to go through if you remain in the relationship.
It's not ideal bringing a baby into a broken home but it's equally not ideal being with someone who does not respect you and your family unit to do something to harm it. Whatever decision you make, trust your gut and don't allow fear or other people's judgement to be the basis of your decision. Wishing you all the very best for you and baby. xxx

Create a mature co-parenting agreement. If you can’t completely forgive him then you’re going to suffer with a lifetime of resentment and insecurities, which is valid but not healthy to live with. If he’s willing to cheat at your most vulnerable point in life by risking giving you and baby STD’s, this is only the beginning of what he’s capable of doing. You’ll never 100% trust him nor should you, what he did was pure evil. Reach out to your loved ones for support, with or without him it takes a village to raise a kid, you don’t have to feel lonely as a single mother.

No advice, just support; I know how it feels and how tough that decision can be ❤️‍🩹

^ said it perfectly. I’m so sorry girl. I hope you find a solution soon. 🤍🤍

I went through the exact thing when I was pregnant, got cheated on when I was 11 weeks pregnant with twins, with a one night stand and she had turned 17 that weekend. (We were both 21 at the time) Went to my OB appt the next day to find out we lost one of the twins. The rest of my pregnancy was HELL. He broke up with me when I was around 5 months because I was “too much” during this broken up time he slept with one girl that he told me of. We ended up getting back together and when our daughter was 4 months old he was working out town and tried to make a fake Snapchat but I caught it automatically because he used his actual phone number, didn’t tell me til months later. Our daughter will be 4 this September and I still regret not leaving, even more so now he wants a second baby. One day soon I will be ready to leave and I will be the bad guy but that was what I chose. Some people can move past it, but I can’t especially bringing up the thought of being pregnant again.

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