Scared to take out my new baby

I’m 5 weeks pp, and I’m so nervous to take out my baby for some reason. I feel so bad, she’s only gone to hospital appointments or in uber/in my mum’s car. We haven’t taken the bus yet and she hasn’t really experienced outside. Anyone else feel like this? How do I overcome it🥲

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She's only 5 weeks old, the main benefit of getting out of the house at this stage is for you to get a change of scene, some fresh air etc. Getting out of the house always does me a world of good! You could try just popping her in the pushchair and going on a small walk around or a quick trip to your nearest shop for a few small bits if you want to start getting out a bit and gain some confidence but honestly there's no rush!

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I have been told many times to just get outside, if you've got a garden just sit out for ten minutes. If you can then even just walking to the end of the street will be good for you. Just get a little fresh air.
The first time I took my baby anywhere I was pretty anxious but I soothed myself with skin to skin when I got home and each outing has been easier since.

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Thanks guys I’ll try my best🥲🥰

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This is very understandable, she’s still so new to the world, and you’re still so new to motherhood! But as the others have said, you’re likely to feel lots better for doing even just a very small trip out like a short walk. You’ve got this ❤️

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You’re not alone! I definitely felt like this in the early weeks. My son is 3 months now and I’m juuuuust beginning to feel brave enough to take him out by myself (I usually make sure to bring my husband or mom when she visits).

I think things will improve with time. Maybe it’s the nerves or being a FTM that’s making you nervous to take him out- the world is scary with a newborn!

I’d def sit outside for a bit just to get some fresh air, feel the sun and have a change of scenery. Baby doesn’t know/care at this age, she just wants to be close to mama.

💖

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I went through this as well. It's very normal and you're doing great. 💗

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I find the thought of things always scary. With my first I had to be out and about early because partner only had 2 weeks off and I had medical appts to get to and cant drive.

Maybe start off eith a simple walk around the block and build up from there.

Like others have said its more for your benefit than the babies. I started taking my now 2.5 year old to playgroup at 4 months and it is definitely more for me than her. She loves it but I want to go just to talk to some adults haha.

You will find your Grove though. You are still in the thick of it, recovering, getting used to being a mother etc. You've got this! ❤️

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i really really understand this. it’s taken me so long to feel even a little confident in this area of things. my baby is 7 months old and i’m only just really getting to grips with it. i would just say, force yourself. feeling prepared and having everything ready (like all supplies needed plus spares in the nappy bag, snacks for you, your route ready on maps) will really help to feel more secure. and remember, if he cries he cries, it’s no one else’s place to judge you and your baby for just existing in public. best of luck 💖

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*she, sorry

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Its natural to feel protective. My baby is 5 weeks and we go out for a walk nearby our home. I take hand sanitiser with me and wash my hands when im back home. everytime i take the baby out i feel so worried and will wash his hands, face, change clothes in the evening..I do feel its getting better and each time we go out I get more confident. I haven't been on the bus, I drive or walk.
Have you tried a sling. The first time I went out on my own was with the sling and being close with the baby helped me the most

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