Cot bumper

I know cot bumpers aren’t recommended, but my little one is getting to the age of going into her own room. At the moment she loves to push herself right into the corner of her next to me crib, even though we put her at the bottom and we are constantly pulling her down! So moving into her cot, I’m worrying that she will smack her head or get caught in the bars, but then I’m worried she will suffocate with the bumper! What’s everyone doing?

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It’s possible she could bump her head or get her arm through the bars or something but the risk is so much less than the risk of bumpers. They learn the boundaries of their space pretty quickly.

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what about a breathable mesh on the side of the bars? a bit like what Next To Me use? it’s breathable if she pushes herself against the side, but prevents any limbs getting stuck?

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I've got a breathable cot bumper as my little one crawls in her sleep

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My daughter did that with her next to me (pressed so tight into the top corner that it looked painful!!), but we never really had that problem once she entered the big crib! She would do full 360 turns throughout the night, move around all over the crib, but never got a limb stuck or smacked her head. We didn’t use anything x

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where did you get it from? Xx

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Mesh bumpers aren’t safe either as they still pose a strangulation risk.

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I will look into this! I didn’t even think of that! Xx

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hopefully mine will be the same!

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She will let you know if she gets stuck or bangs her head a little. They get used it quite quickly. An empty cot is a safe cot 🤗

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we are going to have baby camera in her room, so it’ll give me a little more peace of mind, by this mesh will really help! Thank you

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Mine does full 360s and break dances in her crib. Her feet can't get stuck because she's in a sleep sack. And I highly doubt she can get enough momentum to smack her head or do any kind of damage or injury. At most it will wake them up but a mesh bumper won't protect their heads from the mild bump.

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Hi all, pls do take a look at the Lullaby Trust, just because cot bumpers are sold doesn’t mean they are safe. Babies learn re legs through bars and banging v quickly. Defo not worth the risk.

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/parents-should-remove-cot-bumpers/

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Honestly, I would advise leaving it as it is. It’s natural for babies to move around, and they’ll 100% bump their heads at some point. My nearly two year old daughter has always been a wriggler and used to end up squashed right at the top of the cot horizontally. We could hear her ramming her head against the headboard at times. But she never hurt herself, it’s just natural movement in the night, and cot bumpers just aren’t safe or worth the risk. If she gets stuck in the bars and needs help, she’ll call out for you. A potential injury (which is unlikely) from something like this is much better than the again potential alternative from unsafe cot bumpers or anything being in the cot. Your daughter will be fine 🫶🏻

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We never used anything, our little girl was super active while sleeping, she moved around the whole cot and sometimes bumped her head but never got hurt, it’s natural movement and they get used to it soon. I would never risk her safety putting anything in her cot

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yeah mine wears a sleep sack. This has given me some peace of mind thank you!

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I know this. I’ve followed the lullaby trust ever since she was born as I am petrified of SIDS

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oh bless him! Thank you for sharing! Defo makes me feel a bit better!

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thank you 🩷

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oh bless him!

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