Is it normal to lock your 3/4 year old in there own room?

I keep seeing post where parents are asking for help and advice bc they’re little ones are destroying the room throughout the night. Do y’all leave 3/4y alone?

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My daughter slept in her own room from about 2 years old to just recently when we had a.. problem.. and now we are all sleeping in a living room. But when we had a home to stay in she slept in her own room, she wasn't locked in but she did sleep in there alone at night and for naps when she took them

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My 3 year old sleeps in her own room and had a baby gate on it for the longest time ( we just took it off) she doesn't leave bed with out us

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My girl is on her own room but her door isn’t fully shut, I don’t think it’s super safe to lock it because anything could happen etc x

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I’d never “lock” my child in a room, my son sleeps in his own room he’s almost 3 and been doing it since he was 2 and 1/2. We just put a baby gate across the stairs so he can come into my room if he needs me in the night

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At night her door is shut and had a baby doorknob thing on it. She’s still in a crib too but even when she is not that’s how it will be. So yeah. She has 2 monitors in her room

I don’t understand other options. Do people just let their toddlers roam around the house? How do you toddler proof a whole house to that extent.

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tbh my daughter has free rein like if she needs a wee she’ll take herself there etc, but she doesn’t tend to get out of bed really as we have night lights everywhere x

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I should of worded that way better😂 I agree with them sleeping in there own room, I wouldn’t lock the door for safety reasons and to give my child the comfort to have access to me if needed.

I think I’ve realized i have separation anxiety from my kids😳😂

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My daughter has been sleeping in her room since the day she was born. We donot lock her room just shut the door. We have a baby monitor in her room. She is in the crib still so she cannot get out of it. She definitely knows how to open the door. We are thinking about whether to get her toddler bed or not 😂 she might be roaming around at night lol.

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I have way too much anxiety for this lol. Like even trying to baby proof her room enough to take her out of her crib is so complicated. Or maybe I’m just way over thinking it.

Like there’s a rocking chair in her room. Can I leave it in there because what if she tried to stand on it in the middle of the night and falls off and hits her head enough to pass out and doesn’t scream so we don’t hear it? And then dies of a brain bleed lying in her floor?

And like do I individually lock each drawer of her dresser so she can’t smash her fingers? But then if you put locks on them what if she gets it unlocked somehow, climbs in it and it closes and she suffocates and dies.

Or even if it doesn’t have a lock, she could still climb in and not be able to reopen it from the inside. And what if the dresser muffled the screams so it doesn’t come through the monitor loud enough and we sleep through it.

Like how would I do this with the whole house?? Maybe I need my meds upped. Idk man.

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I totally get what you mean, I was like that at first..
My daughter also has a rocking chair in her room and sometimes she’ll just sit in it in the middle of the night and fall back to sleep on it. We don’t actually have any baby proofing anywhere anymore.

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My 2 year old is a houdini. I used to lock the door to his room but my husband didn't feel comfortable with that. So now we use a baby gate. I wish I could do the same with our front door. He now knows how to work the locks. 🙄

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