Breastfeeding mum's - natural weaning

Hey,

So I'm still breastfeeding my son and I'm more than comfortable doing so. But at the moment my lo has a chest infection and has been on a bit of a hunger strike all round. He's over the worst of it now thankfully but he's obviously shared it with the whole house 🤧 anyway he's having some feeds (bed time / morning) but much less than usual. It feels like our journey might naturally be coming to an end. I just wondered if anyone else had experienced anything similar or how your breastfeeding journeys came to an end?

Thanks x

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My little girl is on one breastfeed per day now, she feeds from both boobs for about 10 mins on each just before bed. I’ve been wondering the same thing as she isn’t really feeding from me really, more of a comfort and uses me as a dummy😂 so I’m interested to see what others say. I’ve read different things online where people have waited for their babies to self wean, or they gradually reduce feeding time until you stop. This is something I’m considering, she doesn’t feed for long as it is so I might just slowly decrease her feeding time and see how she goes xx

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My eldest self weaned in the day time at around 18mo, just gradually fed less and less, then intermittently (one day he’d feed but the next he wouldn’t) and then stopped entirely. He had a bottle of cows milk before bed which replaced his evening/bed time breastfeed when he was about 15mo, and I chose to night wean entirely around then, which probably kick started the day time stopping as well, but I just followed his lead on the daytime feeds.

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Mine weaned literally a few days before he turned one. I kept offering for 10 days but he wasn’t interested and would happily drink cows milk so I just stopped offering. He had gradually dropped feeds throughout the few months before that

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With my first they stopped on their own at 20 months. I wasn’t ready but they were.

My Jan baby is still going strong 🙃 I won’t start to try to stop it until they are 2.

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I am still breastfeeding my 16 month old and she naturally weaned from day feeding quite a while ago but until recently still fed quite a lot over night. she now just feeds before bed and then 1-2 times over night so just continuing to follow her lead atm

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FTM here. Do you need to be giving babies cow milk for them to transition from breastmilk naturally?

Just wondering because My 15 months boy refused cow milk , so there’s nothing to replace breastmilk milk….

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no, as long as they’re having other dairy in their diet as their sources of calcium, they don’t need to replace the breastmilk with cows milk.
They’ll get everything they need from the foods you give.
My eldest liked cows milk, my youngest doesn’t. And whilst it’s not a necessity, I do think it might make him a bit harder to wean off the boob than my eldest was!!

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thank you

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