My husband has been supportive throughout the pregnancy. I'm now almost on the due date and he has changed completely. This morning we had plans and started shouting at me and saying how unsupportive I am and how much of a shitty mother I'm going to be . I asked to use the toilet as he was fixing his hair in the mirror and he threw his phone on the floor and his jacket whilst leaving the toilet. He then left the house saying he was going to call my dad to get me to stay at theirs (4 hours drive away). This has been going on for 2 days and I've expressed how anxious I am about giving birth and realised I am on my own . Going to my parents is not an option as they are old and have their own issues at the moment. Another thing I didn't appreciate him doing was calling them just to give them more grief added to the problems they have . I'm in tears and the baby was kicking a lot whilst he was shouting at me and unsure what to do when baby is in distress in the belly.
Sorry for the rant
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His delivery was definitely inappropriate. Saying you’d be a bad mother is hurtful and unfair. That said, it sounds like he may have reached an emotional breaking point. It might be best to take a bit of space today to cool down, and then have an open, honest conversation with him later. In that conversation, try to understand what’s really going on. Ask him how he’s feeling and encourage him to be honest, while keeping the tone calm and non-confrontational. If he feels unsupported, ask him why and what you can do to help him feel more cared for and connected. It’s possible he called your parents because he didn’t know how to express what he was going through directly to you. It seems like both of you might be feeling a lack of support in different ways, so working on communication together could really help. Hope your okay though chick x