Outgrown next to me

My baby is 4 months old and she has outgrown her next to me. I am not ready to put her in her own room in the cot and unfortunately the cot would not fit in our room as it is a very big one. Ideally she will keep sleeping in our room for a few more months, is there an in between option bigger than next to me but not as big as a large cot? If you have any suggestions I would highly appreciate it 🙏🏻

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Space saver cot. If not could you sleep in her room with her?

Do you have a travel cof? We have the same issue so have swapped the next to me for a travel cot and it's working well! We have one with a bassinet add on so it feels like the next to me but with more space x

What size do you have? I have a lua bedside crib and ym baby is almost 5 months and still has a lot of room (although she is 20th centile for weight but average length.

Space saver cot or travel cot. Travel cot may be the better buy as it’ll still have use when baby goes in there own room x

my son is in the 91st percentile for his height and didn’t fit in his next to me from 4 months either, although i have just moved his cot in here and taken off the side panel to make a huge next to me. try looking on amazon or ebay, they do do some small cot beds which sounds ideal for you x

I’m there with you! My boy is on the cusp of outgrowing the maxi cosi iora we have. I’m going to either buy a petite cot or a travel cot in the next couple weeks

The bugaboo stardust travel cot is good, narrow but much longer for taller babies. My sons 94th percentile for height so has outgrown his next to me a little while ago

Thank you everyone! I have decided to buy a travel cot for now until we are ready to move her to her room 😊

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