2nd baby

Does anyone else feel like nobody cares half as much on your second baby? None of my friends asked when the 20 week scan was, some don’t even know the gender as they’ve not asked, nobody has asked how I’m getting on with a toddler (20 months) and being pregnant with no help until partner home in evenings, just feel like with first baby I was getting super excited because everyone else was whereas this time it feels very flat and shows what’s to come. Surely other people have experienced this? :(

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Yep I feel this! I feel like my friends have stopped inviting me out aswell now so having to make a bit more of an effort to create plans. I think they think because I’m pregnant with a toddler I have no time but truely I need my people around me!xx

No body really cares but equally I don’t really expect them too. I’m sure people are happy for you, just not always asking about appointments. I think in the nicest possible way it’s not always that interesting for them

100% experiencing this but not with friends, with family. I’m really lucky to have a good group of mum friends as I already have a 17 month old. They’ve always checked in and asked but huge difference in family compared to my first pregnancy. My mum has asked quite a few times how I’m getting on but everyone else and my partners family haven’t checked in at all

It’s the same for me too. Not from my friends but family. No one asks how I’m getting on or anything to do with baby or pregnancy. I do sort of get that the excitement over a first baby is completely different but I do feel sad that people arnt as excited for my 2nd. I’m just making sure I do all the exact same things for my 2nd as I did for my 1st regardless of what my family do

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