Is it normal for a 20 month old boy rubbing his private part on hard surfaces while in nappy and dressed?

I feel frustrated on not knowing what is normal/developmentally and what needs to be taken seriously. My 20 month old son finds hard surfaces like toys, steps, balls ….to lay over them and rubs his private part. It’s no longer a random thing and I can see it multiple times a day. Talked to gp she thinks it’s normal but it makes me think what if it never stops? Are they start this at such early age? He is not stressed nor ignored. At points I feel when he is bored he is doing it. Any advice is much appreciated. What is best for us to do? This is an ongoing thing for 4 months now.

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It can be sensory seeking for some children and they do eventually grow out of it after a while, maybe try to introduce some sensory experiences like messy play and different textures and stuff to try deter away from it x

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It's completely normal. They're learning about their body at this age. Honestly they never really do stop.....maybe it stops for a few years in early childhood, but it'll pick right up again during puberty. It's normal and it really shouldn't be shamed, but you can teach him that it should only be done in his room and not in public etc.

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Pretty normal, I had a daughter first and would notice her hang on her toddler bed with her legs wrapped against the corner. I would correct her behavior and she’s now 5 and hasn’t done anything like that in a long time, it’s just sensory and curiosity

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that was soooooooo helpful thank you so very much🌷

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you're very welcome x

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