Punishment in marriage

He's mad at you because you forgot to get the mail? This sounds a bit like emotional abuse or something..punishing you by withholding affection and giving you the silent treatment. Getting mad at you for something small like forgetting to get the mail. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you're able to see a therapist/counselor that might be a good idea.

Daaammm this is emotional abuse at its peak. I'm so sorry Ure going through this.. You do not deserve this. Anyone cud forget anything, it is not a defining factor for any one.Ure worthy, enough and amazing!! Their behavior is not a reflection of your worth. It is a reflection of his emotional immaturity. On that note, u may need to have open communication with him on this, if he persist u need to seek help for domestic help line or contact ur GP on this. Have a great day🤍

@Skye we've been seeing a counselor things have been kind of rocky like this for a long time. Our next session is on Wednesday and we've only done one. But he hates talking about his feelings. It's so hard. he says, it's because I constantly am forgetting stuff. But um, I take care of the baby while he plays video games all day when we're both home. So yeah, am I forgetting things, or do I just have too much on my plate?You know?

@Yvonne thanks. I feel like if I told him that this is classified as emotional abuse. He would think I'm being dramatic. I tried to explain to him today that if he said he forgive me, I'd appreciate a hug or something. But he said when he's mad at me, he doesn't feel in the mood to do things like that. But it would make me feel better so I don't know why he would do it unless he was still mad. He's always mad at the little things and doesn't realize I do so much.

He sounds like a child, playing video games while you watch the baby all day. That's not fair to you at all. I'd say you have too much on your plate. Instead of getting mad at you for forgetting things, he should be trying to figure out why you're forgetting things and making life easier for you. I really hope counselling helps you guys. I'd never accept this type of behavior from my partner.

I'm debating just being done. He treats me like garbage

that’s emotional abuse. he sounds like an ass and you deserve way better than him

@Izzie its hard leaving someone you still love though

i’m sure it is, but someone who truly loves you and cares about you wouldn’t treat you that way! i hope things get better for you

Please leave. He won’t change, it won’t get better, and you will regret not leaving sooner. This is definitely abuse, it’s deliberate, and it’s incredibly immature and lacking compassion. Therapy only works when someone can see their contribution and it doesn’t sound like your husband can at all.

its just so hard for me to convince myself to leave...

What is making the decision the most challenging?

that i still love him. And I planned a while life with him