Postnatal Depression

At what point do you stop wondering if it’s postnatal depression and accept that it is postnatal depression?

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To be honest, mine was when I had my car keys in my hand, stood by the front door at 3am trying to work out where I could go and crash my car so that no one could find me until the morning so I could die alone back in December. Lucky for me my husbands a light sleeper.

Also if your googling it all the time hoping that some one on the internet can explain your brain, because you know some thing isn’t ‘normal’ about how you feel.

When you know, no changes you could make will make a difference to how you feel. When you wait 2 weeks to see a mental health nurse through the NHS and they say you can self refer to talking therapies, they’d accept you.

Thank you for sharing Anastasia and for being so open, I’m so sorry that you went through that and I’m so glad that your husband kept you safe x

I think I had postnatal depression and didn’t realise until I felt like I came out the other side in the last couple of months. I also lost my brother unexpectedly at 3 months postpartum so I wasn’t sure what was postpartum and what was grief, but I was very tearful, feeling extremely low and just like I had completely lost who I was and had no interest in anything and never felt happy but the main one for me which I think was definitely postpartum was seriously debilitating constant intrusive thoughts of harm coming to my baby, or that I might do harm to my baby (I didn’t want to WHATSOEVER I just couldn’t stop imagining “what if I did this” etc) and also I really couldn’t stand my partner to the point where I was planning my finances to pay the mortgage without him - although things have got better for me now and I can only really recognise all of this in hindsight. Feel free to message me x

I’m feeling low and unhappy and just can’t find joy in anything but no plans to harm myself or the baby, more just sometimes sat in the evening doing nothing, staring at nothing just silent not even on my phone or watching tv. Sometimes crying and hours pass🫠

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