Baby’s last name?

Sidenote If youre in unmarried in GA the baby cant get his name without a decent amt of paperwork anyway

we aren’t married

Definitely use your last name and don’t put him on the birth certificate. He reacted terribly but if a last name determines whether or not you’re going to be a good parent then you’re a trash person.

My daughter has my last name and her father isn’t on the birth certificate it will help you in the long run

thanks for this. He told me I was being selfish and tried to make me feel guilty. 😅 so this makes me feel better

she can put any last name, she just can’t list him as the father without a Voluntary Acknowledgement of Paternity form.

You can say you’ll put it. Just make a “mistake”when filling out the forms and legally they won’t be about to submit it so it will just be your info on there. You can always choose to change it to his name later.

my gut is telling me to not put his last name or put him on the birth certificate just because of the type of person he is. A narcissist and very spiteful. So I believe you when you tell me it will help me in the long run. 😅

I’m unmarried and in GA, my son has his father’s last name. Just a piece of paper for paternity acknowledgement, nothing extensive. He’s on the birth certificate, he just has no rights to him because we’re not married and didn’t do the legitimation paperwork. So it’s actually not a lot of paperwork at all lol, I did it.

I’m wishing you the best to start you don’t have to be married for anybody to sign the paperwork. There is not an additional amount of paperwork to do if you are married or if you’re not married second you’ll just have to keep in mind that if you do not have him signed the birth certificate by law he does not have to help you with that child at all so that may be something that you need to sit and think about regardless if he wants to be in the baby’s life, he will be, but you’re also cutting him out of the picture by not allowing him to sign the birth certificate.

yess I’m going through some bs with my bd mind you my daughter about to be 2 this Monday coming up he don’t do anything never calls or see her but want rights.

hey, if he doesn’t want to be there at the hospital over a last name?! He’s already showing what type of father he’s going to be. You didn’t tell him to cheat, he made that decision on his own. You don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with! You’re not selfish and how can you be all of a sudden selfish now? He’s sure he knows what that words means, didn’t seem to know what it meant when he was messing around! Do what’s best for you and your child. He can cry in a corner lol, so damn dramatic. He has absolutely zero rights to the child in GA cuz yall are not married sooooo

Girl I’m going through the same thing I’m giving my son my last name and that’s it

I have thought about the fact that he won’t legally have to help me with the child, and I’m okay with that because he hasn’t helped me with anything this entire pregnancy. He’s maybe spent $20 on baby stuff for me. And I’ve always been the one to pay for everything.
My main concern is he is such a spiteful person, I’ve heard that putting him on the birth certificate might make things hard, like getting her a passport, etc. I would need his permission. I don’t know how true that is.

That’s crazy you don’t want to put his name on the birth certificate or give the child his last but want him to be there? Crazy as hell, I don’t wrong him I wouldn’t do anything for that child either because clear it’s not mine. If you don’t want the his name on the birth certificate then just leave him out completely and do your thing on your own. If he wants to be in the child life let him be he didn’t cheated on the child, let him do his part.

That is 100% true Mimi if that is your only worry then yes please go with your heart keep going with what you feel is best for baby girl. Continue to do your research because if you do put him on the birth certificate and he is a spiteful person. He is able to have just as many rights as you somewhat.

the passport thing is true, you would need his permission.

damn, you okay? You from his family or something? She wants to give him a chance to be a good father and to see the birth of his daughter. After everything he’s done? She’s being really nice and still putting her kids relationship first with her father.

he’s shown me over and over again what type of father he’s going to be and I still try to have empathy towards him.
When I found out he was cheating and I told him I don’t want to be with him anymore, he told me to get an abortion or else he’s not leaving my house. Mind you the 4 years we have been together, I paid every single bill. He drove my cars. He had no job. 😭 so I just have to keep reminding myself of what he put me through and just stick to my gut feeling.

oh you are strong asf! I applaud you for not being petty and still trying to at least give him a chance to be in her life. If he ruins it, that’s on him. He’s a bum

Kmt makes no sense, if his name won’t be on the birth certificate then leave the man alone. Every man cheats end of story. Stop being a bitter baby mother.

girl go kick rocks

her baby daddy must cheat on her all the time and she’s just okay with it. Some girls are okay with that unfortunately but I do believe there are men out there that don’t cheat. I just found my self worth and know what I deserve now. 😇

now why do you wanna be a pick me?

Yes he cheats all the time 😂😂😂😂😂 and i am still alive.

idk how you do it girl. But cheating is just a no for me. Especially if it’s reoccurring. 😬

Good for you. 😁

nothing wrong with having respect for yourself!!

You guys are crazy. You want the lady to end up sad and lonely like you guys. Bitter as hell. I didn’t told her to stay with the man I said put the man last name on the birth certificate. What is wrong with that you don’t have to be sleeping with the dad to give the child the name. He saw where he went wrong and willing to change. I am not telling her to sleep with the man silly Billy. Common sense.

who you talking to?! You coming crazy for a person with no profile pic and not even knowing us. What does him being on the certificate have to do with anything genius? He didn’t see where he went wrong because if he did he wouldn’t throw a bitch fit when she said hey I don’t want to give her your last name after everything. Then he flipped tf out and tried to play victim, that’s not willing to change all he did was prove her point. Stop being dumb. Just because you’re a male centered female, doesn’t mean the rest of us are. Him not being on a birth certificate doesn’t make her sad and lonely. Common sense.

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lol just ignore her. Common sense isn’t so common nowadays obviously. 😂 she’s okay with her man cheating on her. That already says what type of woman she is. Bless her heart.

I gave my daughter both our last names hyphenated, something you might want to consider.

I did think of that. When I asked what about making her last name both of our last names then, he said no, I’m doing too much.
So I did try 😑

maybe it depends on the hospital? I have many unmarried friends that were able to give their kid the dad's last name.

for the OP, I was told that I could give my kids my husbands last name at time of birth, BUT being married gives him power over making decisions with baby. If we weren't married & baby had his last name it wouldn't make much difference. We're Mexican, so we gave our kids both our last names. I say do it just to hold him accountable & responsible for his kid.. if you ever need to put him on child support it'll be a huge help.

Hey mama been through the EXACT same thing,, my sons dad was cheating on me first time i caught him he lied so i brushed it(made me feel crazy but😒) then i found him speaking to multiple women when i was 5/6 months and he was abusive as well so i decided to finally leave him. He verbally abused me for the remaining months of my pregnancy cos i left him then when my son was born, was tryna be cordial to, tried to give him chance always spoke monotonous to him always about our son but he would always end up relapsing to asking to get back together bc he don’t want our son growing up without 2 parents bare in mind he drove me to leave i gave him ample chances wher now i even look back and think btch i shlda left the first time😩😂. I told him about our son having my last name he wasn’t impressed either held some mad grudge. Saying that i may as well have just been a surrogate like he ain’t want this child. Said things like why is he having my surname when I’m gonna have more kids

It’s just all mind games honestly, I’m glad i stuck with what i did as i know having father on the birth certificate gives him paternal rights and him being him saying openly he wants me to suffer for not staying with him(bare in mind he clearly wanted me to suffer being with him as well 🤣) would mean i would have to get his dutty ass permission to go on holiday with my son whom i birthed, and he didn’t think about when he punched me & try strangle me whilst carrying my precious son who is now doing so well and 16 weeks old🥰.

You can claim child support off him without his surname

girl this sounds almost exactly like me what I’m going through 😂 but I’ve been staying strong. Now that you’ve have your kid and all, how is the father of your child now? Did he get over the last name thing? Or is he still being petty?

Don't add his last name to the birth certificate because if you're traveling you'll need his permission for everything if he's on the birth certificate. He'll be in the child life he's just in his feelings

these men man😩😂. I’m proud a you for staying strong it’s hard af not to even stoop down to they level when they going off like a kid lol. He has still brought it up a couple of times I’m ngl, one time when he was cussin for me not allowing him to visit in the first week , because he hasn’t made me feel safe so I stood my boundaries firm on that one. Then boy said his last name isn’t on the birth certificate ‘therefore I legally I don’t need to do anything’ bare in mind he is very much in prison rn…but he persists on being in his life while failing to speak to me as respect, not as his partner (because what he fails to realise is that I don’t ever want that kind of relationship with him again) but as the mother of his child!

He still being petty yh but ngl I was updating him about how my son, is developing weekly because I’m too empathetic sometimes, he try to force an argument I said yh no. Boy you are in jail hung up and been no contact with him since .. I update his mother who fortunately is very kind and she updates him.