Just a vent!

This age is really hard, my 18 month old is so defiant at the moment, doesn't want to do anything I want him to do, won't go in the highchair, won't go in the buggy, doesn't want to go in the car seat, won't lay down for a nappy change 🫠 I feel like I'm constantly telling him off and I feel awful about it, because he doesn't even understand. I have a 4 month old as well so I just don't have the energy! X

literally everything you just said is the same with my daughter. I tell her no and she does the same thing over and over again, I ignore her and she just does it while staring at me waiting for me to tell her off. I’ve got a 12 week old too so totally get you. It’s exhausting. She just never wants to be round me at the moment, it’s heartbreaking x

I guess it’s nice to know I’m not alone lol xx

They don't really understand the concept of no fully, especially if we're really feeling it. And of course it's hard with another small one! I couldn't do that. Mine knows something's up and repeats "no, no" in a funny voice and kind of stops, but I don't waste my breath trying to explain something he doesn't have the capacity for, I just try to get ahead of situations. Gentle parenting (Sarah ockwell smith) is really helpful. It's not about being a permissive parent but just the right communication and behaviour for their age and it really helps you out as a parent. The FB group is great and plenty of mums of two there who can advise. Be kind to yourself x

thank you xx

It might be worth seeing if your partner can get a couple holiday days off, and giving yourself a break. She's being like this with you because you're the person she sees all day every day. I've had the same with my son, feeling like he hates me and almost like he's bored of me. Unfortunately the people they see the most, and that they're most comfortable with are the people they play up with the most, as difficult as that is. I'd recommend giving yourself a break from being around her 24/7, and give her a break so she can miss you the way she misses her dad while he's at work. I'm not saying go on a full on holiday🤣 but just take a you day x

I’ll take the full on holiday 🤣🤣 thank you for your comment xx

I mean, if you're going take me with you 😭😭🤣🤣