Pain in stomach region after sex

It happens to me sometimes too

I had pelvic floor exercises through PT for 6 months. I still do the exercises daily

my child is almost 3 years old. Never uses lube. He just shoves it in whenever he wants to

How is live going to help my abdominal pains?

I don’t have it. I was diagnosed at 17 with it but recent scans show a perfectly healthy and “normal” reproductive system for my age. I’ve been to 7 OBS/GYNs since having my child. The latest one recommended a full hysterectomy

have you asked your doctors about it?

No 😅 I was just powering through 😂😂😂

Yeah I'm sorry to hear about the pain, but this whole situation sounds concerning - "he just shoves it in whenever he wants to" makes me wonder if you're safe? Please seek help if you are not in a safe situation.... I hope I'm just reading too much into your wording, but you should have a say in if/when you have sex.

I just give in from time to time because the desperation and the moaning and groaning gets annoying. He has a high sex drive for a fat man imo and one of his age but here we are. I don’t enjoy it. Never have and don’t want to have it since having my child.

I’m considering a full hysterectomy anyway. I’m done with the chronic symptoms I have anyway. They just don’t want to jump to it because of my age and only having one child so far but I’m not having anymore children

there’s no time for lube honestly. We don’t get alone time. He sneaks it in whenever he gets annoying enough. We hide in the kitchen or bathroom. He doesn’t go deep. He’s not that big to go that deep

to add I don’t love him. I feel nothing towards him since having my child

oh goodness. I’m fortunate he doesn’t last long I guess but I have pain for days afterwards which is really annoying and painful

It’s not always bad and not the whole time either but when it’s towards the end I just let it be and deal with the pain for the next day or two afterwards 😅

my child isn’t around when it happens. Thanks for judging bitch

that’s so terrible. I’m so sorry you’re going through it too

It’s all good hun but I hope you figure out what’s going on so you’re not in pain anymore 🥺

thank you! Same for you!

I'm confused did it hurt prior to child birth? It could hurt because you had sex too soon after child birth. I remember 4 months PP myself we had sex & it really hurt after like cramps etc. But it's bc your body needs to heal.. so if your kid is older now.. your body never healed

guess my body never healed then 🤷🏼‍♀️ I waited the recommended time frame and at my 4 wk pp visit everything was healing fine. Then at my 6 wk then said everything looked great. The 8 wk same thing. By the 12 wk pp visit, everything looked great but I had the pain in my stomach. They told me it’s my new norm. I rarely had sex postpartum. I still only have it when I can’t stand his begging anymore

My stomach never hurt before my child no. My vaginal area would hurt but not my stomach

I'd consider divorce if he always treats you this badly. You don't deserve to be treated this way hun.

divorce costs money I don’t have and he would only make my life and my child’s life a living hell more than he does now

Look into assistance programs to help with the costs. Eventually your child will be old enough to understand what's going on and it will severely mess him/her up mentally and emotionally.

and then I’ll be traumatizing my child by living in a shelter. What kind of life is that?

It would be tough to be in a shelter but that would hopefully just be for a short time to allow you to get back on your feet and then you could give them a better life for the rest of their life

I don’t see how. I can’t work. Shelters only allow a maximum of 6 months to stay

Why can't you work?

that’s not really anyone’s business. I can’t and that’s that. I don’t need to divorce because I have a lack of interest in sex. He would be the one to leave.

What kind of life is it for a child seeing their mom being treated horribly by their dad?

the life that most lived and still live. My father was apparently verbally abusive to my mother so I’m not surprised that I’m stuck in the same situation. My husband was physically abused as a child and verbally and mentally and emotionally. You’d think he would want to be different 🤷🏼‍♀️

That is NOT true. There are plenty of healthy and loving families. You need to break this cycle because if you stay, he will think it's ok to treat his partner this way when he's grown up/she will think it's ok to be treated horribly by her partner.... You'd be angry at your child if he grew up to be abusive. If you have a daughter, you'd be begging her to leave an abusive partner.

I wouldn’t be putting myself into my child’s marriage. My mother defends my husband lol I learned better to not speak to her about my personal life. Everybody has flaws. No such things as a perfect family

I never said any family is perfect. But that doesn't mean that there is abuse in every family. No one should tolerate abuse in any form. So you're saying (if your child is a boy) if you found out he was abusing his gf/wife you would not be extremely angry at him. Or (if your child is a girl) if you found out her bf/husband was abusing her you wouldn't tell her "Honey, you deserve better than this. Please leave him." Yikes.... I'd be begging my daughters to leave if they were in a verbally or physically abusive relationship/marriage and wouldn't hesitate to call the cops if she came to me with physical injuries from him. I'd tell her to stay with me until she gets on her feet and I'd support her every step of the way.