Effect on a toddler when co-sleeping with both toddler and a newborn?

Hiya ladies,

Have any of you co-slept with toddler and a newborn at the same time? Did it affect your toddler's sleep and in what way? Do you have any tips and tricks you've learned along the way to give them both the best night of sleep?

I have a 28 month old who we've co-slept with since he was around 4 months old (prior to that we were struggling to sleep trying to have him in the cot in our room).
His speech has gotten really good and I believe he actually understands our conversations based on his responses and his reactions etc.

I've asked him if he wanted to have his own room now (tried to sell him by suggesting themes he can have in the room etc) and he wasn't interested, he said he wants to sleep with mummy and daddy instead 😅

We have a newborn on the way, which we plan to co-sleep with too (connected a crib with one side down to our bed). The closer we are to meeting her, the more worried I am about the newborn life disrupting my toddler's sleep 😬 He's still breastfed and he'll have a nice stretch of uninterrupted sleep from around 9 PM until almost 6AM and I would like to keep that going for him 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Following. Due any week now with a cosleeping toddler.

My son was 18 months old when my daughter was born and we’ve been co sleeping every since, she’s now almost 2 and we are expecting another baby and are going to be co sleeping with a toddler and newborn again

Following cause same 😅

Wow congratulations on your new baby on the way. I wish you a safe delivery and easy birth.

I would see how it plays out first. Maybe Bub will realise how noisy it is and request their own room haha. If the co sleeping doesn’t work, could you and hubby take turns? Could you set up your toddlers room and have dad sleep with him to keep him company?

Completely understand how stressful this change will be, however, I know you will figure it out along the way 💕

HappyCosleeper has an Instagram post/guide on sleeping with a baby and a toddler - it’s helpful!

I have coslept with my baby and toddler together for the last year (my baby is one today!). I was so stressed about how it would go etc, but we just made it work!
I intended for my baby to sleep in the side-car cot and my toddler to be on the other side of me in the bed, but it ended up working out better with my toddler in the side car cot and baby in bed with me c-curled around him.

Usually I head up to bed with my toddler with my partner has baby, get her to sleep and then my partner brings my baby up to me. During the newborn days, somehow the wake ups for feeding didn’t wake my toddler- she just kept sleeping!

Don’t get me wrong- there are some nights when both wake & it’s a bit chaotic, but I think that’d be the case if my toddler was in another room anyway, only harder to manage!

Don’t overthink it- just do everything you can to minimise risks & enjoy your babies 🩷

following!! my 18mo has been a rough sleeper since birth and still wakes frequently (in a sleep regression so lately every hour🫠) to nurse and he’s such a light sleeper. i have no idea how this is gonna work out… im only 12 weeks pregnant so a lot can change developmentally and with his sleep but im so worried about this. i’m praying my new baby is a perfect sleeper and we get super blessed lol im hoping baby will be in a moses basket next to our floor bed. but honestly im really hoping that toddler will sleep longer stretches and by himself so i can go back to sleeping with my husband in our bed and cosleep with newborn there.

I tried to get my only then 3yr old to go into a room with her brother (who was still 4yr at the time) but it didn’t work. She only slept in her cot for a short period as a baby then was in my bed. She was so attached to me and I just thought I’d have to sleep with her and the baby. First night home though was a disaster, every couple hrs I was up feeding the baby and she was awake to. I decided never again lol. My husband sleeps in a king size bed with my now 6yr son and 4yr daughter and baby is in the cot in my room, but the 4yr old still tends to come in most nights. I think you just have to wait and see what happens and go with that ☺️

My son turned 2 years old 3 weeks after my daughter was born… she’s 3 months now and we’ve all coslept together, I’ve had no issues with either of them and will continue to cosleep as long as they want to.

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