Losing patience a lot lately

Maybe someone can give me advice or ways to be more patient... Im not a very patient person in general, I get agitated very quickly.
I don't want to be this way with my LB I feel so bad, but when he is crying for nothing or wakes up in the night, I just can't keep a cool head. I don't know why or what's wrong with me, I don't think I can regulate my emotions, I don't know how or what it actually means.
I try stop myself and clam down but the crying is too overwhelming I just lose patience so fast.
I would never ever ever do anything bad, I can control my actions and would never harm my LB, but I just feel so agitated and I do sometimes raise my voice and act irritated then I feel so bad that he's seen me be this way to him. I feel lost and so horrible, the worst mother in the world , like I don't deserve to have a child 😔

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Have you tried some grounding techniques like box breathing etc. Also just recently playing classic fm help me and my partner decompress relax. When you really listen to the music. We did it recently on a 3 hour car journey home. Where it had been a stressful weekend away. We arrived home relaxed and our toddler had the longest nap in the car. Like ever x

i can completely relate with this, my little one never slept through and we have sometimes 5 wakings a night , i get so overwhelmed and agitated if i try first to calm him down and i cant do it then this agitate me even more. Last night he decided to fully wake at 4:40 am and keep dragging me out of the bed screaming for tv and i raised my voice and took him out in the garden to cool down (he was in my arms but totally tried to ignore him) he was just screaming until he vomited..this is a lot for me honestly..i always try to be gentle first and talk calmly but sometimes i just cannot anymore..havent slept a full night since i birth him..and i think this is the biggest problem..today i went food shopping with him ( stupidly i believed is going to be fine) and he was tantruming in all Sainsburys bcse he wanted down from the trolley to run which i let him for a bit but then was out of control couldn’t manage him or put him back in the trolley , i felt like everyone was watching me😔

I just wanted to share some of our situations where i also loose my patience and get nervous, you are doing great mama , never say you don’t deserve it, it is a very hard age/phase but will get through it 🙏

Argh, parenthood is the hardest thing ever! It really shows us what areas of ourselves we need to work on.. we’re all guilty of losing our patience!

If our mood and/or sleep isn’t great, we’re more likely to get irritated quicker too. How are you feeling in general? X

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢