New neighbours children jumping into my garden multiple times in attempt to take toys

LONG POST! I'm i being unreasonable? My neighbours moved in last year they are very nice. They have one 8/9yrs old severly autistic child and a daughter who is 5 years old. Recently, they keep throwing stuff into our garden such as shoes, mop, food, recycle bins stuff, and toys. Me and my husband would get annoyed due to constantly cleaning up, but I wouldn't say anything as we got young kids too. One day I had enough and wanted to approach the parents, but luckily the mum knocked on our door and apologised she was annoyed they kept throwing stuff in our garden I told her if its toys etc I dont mind I will throw it back in her garden as kids do silly things and I understand, but she has to move her bins from the garden as they are throwing stuff in my garden and i dont let my kids out because its dangerous something can fall on them. Last week I see both the kids standing over the fence, mind you our fence is very high so I think they are stepping over some plank or bins and over looking our garden for toys and the boy fell on the side of the fence where its a semi detached gate. Today, I was sleeping in my living room with my 16-month-old and 3 yrs old. And I wake up and see the boy in our garden picking up my childrens car toys. I screamed as a natural reaction as I had never seen anyone in our property unauthorised. Plus, i just woke up, so i didn't process it properly. I was telling the boy to leave I felt bad because he has limited speech and hearing problem and its not his fault the parents should keep an eye and also he can injury himself last thing i want is them injuring themsleves on my property unauthorised. But I saw the 5-year-old sister, she's the naughty one egging him on. I had to tell him to leave through the side entrance and go to his house from the front door. As I left the garden, I took my kids upstairs. And I see him back in our garden i was so confused how he jumped back in through those high fence so quickly and see the sister telling him to pick up my childrens toy and gave it to her. I had to go and tell their parents its not on, the mum opened the door soon as she saw me she was like, "Oh my son dropped something in your garden." I said thats fine if they drop stuff just knock on my door and i'll give it but your children are jumping over my garden and this is the 3rd time firstly they can injury themselves and secondly they shouldn't be doing that in someone else's garden. She apologised and said she was taking care of her newborn and didn't realise. I went back to my house and let him out through the side entrance and I saw him with my child's toy in his hand and took it with him, i allowed it because I felt sorry for him not his fault..But the mum made excuse saying he doesn't have his hearing aid on when he did. Anyways, these neighbours have been renting since last year and I remember the mum telling me how her old neighbourhood wasn't nice but she likes it here as all the houses on this rd have children. When they first moved in I opened the side gates to speak to the mum and welcome her into the neighbourhood and he ran inside my garden going hyper which I didnt mind but then he ran into my living room and the mum was struggling to pull him out of our house and garden as there was loads of toys. Anyways I dont want to be that neighbour that constantly complains about young kids as I have kids too and knows they are unpredictable but am sick of the kids constantly throwing shoes, air freshener glasses from recycling bins, food and stuff into my garden and now its the 3rd time the kids climbed over into my garden and their living room door was open which makes me think how can the mum not see them climbing over even if she is busy with her newborn. Normally, I leave my garden door open in summer and chill in the kitchen etc now I feel like I can't do that as they will come into my property unauthorised and take stuff. I dont know what to do I complained to the parents so many times and I want to keep a good relationship with them as they are very nice and they do apologise but they need to keep an eye on their kids. I just hope they dont stay here long term and leave once their contract is up.

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I would tell her that she needs to get it under control. If she can't keep on eye on the kids, then she needs to lock the door to the garden until she can.

I would also inform her that you have had many conversations and you have been very understanding but that if it happens again then she will leave you with no option but to take the matter further, whether that be to her landlord, the council or social services.

She clearly doesn't understand the gravity of what is going on, and probably won't until you spell it out to her

Sorry I've no idea what to do, but I don't think you're being unreasonable, it sounds really tough. We think of our homes and gardens as personal and safe spaces where access is under our control, I would be bothered too. I hope this resolves soon ❤️

it is a safeguarding issue. Her child escaped from home and she had no knowledge.

If you know what estate agent was used, then try reaching out to them. No idea whether they will pass it on or not.

Do you own the fence? Put barbed wire across the top of it.

As someone with an asd child I personally wouldn’t let them in the garden unsupervised. My son is fine on his own but when he was younger if there were other kids Nextdoor in the garden I wouldn’t leave him unattended as he’s too unpredictable however he’s never jumped over the fence just interfered with their alexa.
Bit hard when the mum is focussed on the newborn and not what her kids are up to. Maybe she could print out some visuals to remind her kids and put them on her fence.
On the positive summer is almost over and behaviour patterns will change/be forgotten over winter.

Please don't put barbed wire on the fence, it is actually illegal to do it. But you can get pigeon and cat prevention strips

UPDATE: was in the garden today with my child playing the neighbours kids came out climbed up on the fence looking over our garden. I can hear the mum saying "dont jump into their garden am watching you" but they keep looking over. The boy attempted to climb over multiple times and his sister had to tell him not to jump and even i had to say dont climb over. Then they went and got there food and watching me and my children whilst their eating the food over the fence. Now it makes sense why theres always food in our patio. I just dont understand why the mum dont move whatever she has by the fence to stop her kids climbing, when I approached her she said theres nothing there for the kids too climb up that high. All she has to do is move the thing and they won't climb instead of telling them dont climb. I know they are interested in the outdoor toys we have thats why they keep looking but it makes me so uncomfortable. I know it won't stop, and if they jump in again I will have to escalate

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