Am i the only one?

Hi Mums, this is the first time i will be openly speaking about this because ive been trying to push it back or hide it but i need to know if this is normal?

My baby boy is almost 7 months ols. We had a really difficult time in NICU for a week when he was born and i was also in the hospitalbed. I feel like since im home i havent been able to to complety chill the fuck out. I am always on alert, i feel like i cant rest. I have no friends or family here. My baby is exclusively breastfed and will not drink outside of his bedroom so when we go outside i always have to rush to get back home when he cries. The furthest ive been is 10 mins from home. Havent sat down at a cafe or restaurant. Just shops like sainsbury and b&m. I feel like my everyday is the same routine. Wake up play with him have a walk for a bit go shops and come home put him to bed, clean and sleep. I dont have time to make myself look nice. When will my life be normal? Im so scared this is my life now. I have no one to talk about this. I cant imagine going to the city centre with him it will be madness. Please, does anyone else have a similar situation? HELP. xx a really tired exhausted mum.

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Would you be upset?

So I have been feeling upset today for a few reasons.

1 I asked my siblings, I have 3. Lets call them A, B and C, if we were doing anything for Easter this weekend. A, never responded, B said he had to get through the work week first and C said she didn't know what her little family was doing yet, so no idea.

I said ok, let me know and told them that my little family was away most of the weekend visiting my partners family but would be free on Monday.

Found out on wednesday that B had organised for our parents to go over on Thursday for a movie night and today, after I asked that he and his wife will be out tomorrow but will visit our parenrs on Monday. So he is capapble of organising things, just not with me.

Found out, alao today, also after I asked, from A that she and our parents are going to visit C, her partner and their 8 month old.

So I am upset and angry that noone communicated with me and I had to follow up to get answers.

It's bringing up other issues we have had. Like Christmas 2024, my kiddo was in hospital so we missed Christmas with my family and then my SIL posted photos captioned "family photo" to our fanily group chat (can't remember if she posted to social media) but have taken "family photos" exactly twice before that (once at my Dad's 70th the month before and the other at my brother and SIL's wedding. She was the first to join our family and had been in our lives for 6 years at that point. We haven't taken "family photos" since, despite adding a member, when my niece was born, I was really hurt by that.

2. I am upset with my partner because we are at his Dad's and I have put the dishwasher on twice (he helped once) and a load of washing (he hung it out) and he aaked me to organise our kids dinner, meaning search his Dad's fridge or pantry. I just gace him toast. He also basically told me to put another load of washing on after our kiddo pooped his pants and then turned the bathroom light off, while I was still in there, and walked away.

I absolutely don't mind pulling my weight at his Dad's but it feels like he follows my lead and does the things I have started a lot of the time.

I also would never expect him to rifle through my parents fridge or pantry.

His Dad is super cool and I know I am welcome too, it just feela uncomfy.

3. Our SIL (on my partners side), we'll call her P, is the one who pafticipates in the group chats and her husband, my partners brother isn't even in the chat and is notoriously unreliable in terms of reaponding to or answering calls or texts. So it goes through P. Anyway I feel like there is always an excuse for them not to hang out and my son barely sees them and his cousins. As a result he is obviously closer to the two he does see and it's noticeable.

They aren't free at all this weekend, except tomorrow when we are all catching up and they aren't free next weekend. They weren't free for a city date in January and constantly have thinks on; dance, soccer, parties etc. Never available for quick catch ups either. They live a few streets over from my partners Dad but it's impossible to see them and I am ready to give up. They remind me of my aunt and uncle and I have minimal contact. Never call or text, see them once a year and at special events. I have zero relationship with my cousins. I haven't actually seen my aunt and uncle since 2023 and can't remember the last time I saw the older of my 2 cousins.

I hate that my son is going through what I did.

Anyway, it's been a down day.

Emotional abuse

It’s been pointed out to me that what I’ve been experiencing in my relationship is emotional abuse. After a year and a half of manipulation and gaslighting, things are finally starting to make sense, but it’s also overwhelming to process.

What makes it even harder is knowing that from the outside, he’s seen and known as such a kind and good person and I’m afraid no one will believe me. Right now, I feel completely drained, like I’m carrying a constant weight, with this tight, anxious feeling in my chest that won’t go away.

I’m still trying to find my footing and understand what comes next, but I needed to say this out loud. 😔

Full time job

My partner works all week and he works quite a physical job.He does come home and help ish but i always have to ask and i feel like he has to make a face first and then he’ll still do it.He doesn’t wake up on the weekend and i feel bad to wake him up cause he is worked but i am so tired even tho our little girl doesn’t wake up during the nights anymore.He still does his hobbies like fishing and gym and i feel like i’m just stranded 24/7 .

am I being selfish?

I’m 34 weeks and as I’m nearing the end of pregnancy I have lost a lot of my patience. I’m usually very understanding and patient. I’m 20 and my bf is 33. We don’t live together right now, he is been living 4 hours away for the past 5 months but every time he goes out I get annoyed. Idk if it’s because I feel like I’m stuck being pregnant and can’t do anything or if I feel like he’s not having to sacrifice anything. I just feel very upset when he’s out with friends drinking and I’m at home pregnant. I also feel like I’m not romantically interested in him anymore. I feel very disconnected from him. Is it me?

Baby wont settle with partner

My 5 week old cried every time I give him to my partner who is the dad. Usually within 2 minutes even if he’s awake or asleep. He’s been like this since he was about a week old. My partner thinks it’s because we’re combi feeding and that I need to pick one but I don’t think it is. Anyone else had this and found a way for me to not be the sole parent? We have a 4 year old too so I need to be able to give him attention too sometimes and not have to shower either crying in the background

How would other mums feel ?

This morning there was an issue where I needed to use the car to pick something up for my Mum and my partner wanted to take our daughter out at the same time. I said I'd just go before and be quick and then they could use the car (with her appropriate car seat - she's 4) but he kept saying no she can just go in my van (with absolutely no car seat). I clearly and explicitly said no, he knows my opinion on this as he's asked before and I made it very clear. It should never have even been raised as an option. Anyway, my daughter got all excited at his suggestion and then proceeded to cry for about half an hour begging me to say yes. I explained it was illegal and unsafe and I wouldn't put her at risk like that. Next thing he just says I'm being silly and dramatic and he's taking her. 🤯 She got all excited and I was absolutely furious with him. I said I was very angry and it's not ok and he still took her anyway...I did consider physically blocking her from going, but I didn't want the drama or upset that it could cause, so they went. But I'm very upset...what is he teaching her?! That he can just override me when I have repeatedly said no she isn't going? And what kind of respect for me and my opinions is that?! V angry.