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This morning there was an issue where I needed to use the car to pick something up for my Mum and my partner wanted to take our daughter out at the same time. I said I'd just go before and be quick and then they could use the car (with her appropriate car seat - she's 4) but he kept saying no she can just go in my van (with absolutely no car seat). I clearly and explicitly said no, he knows my opinion on this as he's asked before and I made it very clear. It should never have even been raised as an option. Anyway, my daughter got all excited at his suggestion and then proceeded to cry for about half an hour begging me to say yes. I explained it was illegal and unsafe and I wouldn't put her at risk like that. Next thing he just says I'm being silly and dramatic and he's taking her. 🤯 She got all excited and I was absolutely furious with him. I said I was very angry and it's not ok and he still took her anyway...I did consider physically blocking her from going, but I didn't want the drama or upset that it could cause, so they went. But I'm very upset...what is he teaching her?! That he can just override me when I have repeatedly said no she isn't going? And what kind of respect for me and my opinions is that?! V angry.

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You are completely in the right, he is completely wrong! For him to even suggest it shows he isn’t considering her safety at all! And clearly has very little respect for you! X

I agree with you to be honest, I’m a very big person on kids being safe in the correct car seats, I am ERF my 2 who are currently nearly 5 and 3, they will be in their ERF seats until they max them out which going by their charts will be about 6.5/7 years old, I would be absolutely furious just like you if it was me, it is so dangerous especially with her not being in a seat at all, I know you said you’re trying to avoid an argument on it but I would be setting him straight and even showing him the dummy videos they do for showing what impact it can have on a child’s body (they have some on YouTube), I hope you’re okay 💕

I'd shown him some videos of the impact on a child when not in a car seat. I'm so sorry you weren't respected. Xx

Last time we spoke about this I showed him videos and clearly explained the dangers (although he's not silly, he should know 🤦🏻‍♀️) he knows how passionately I feel about it...it has been discussed at length in the past and he was very tricky about it even then, but ended up dropping it. But ugh! I have spent thousands over the years on the safest car seats for our little ones for him to just go and take her without one. Ridiculous! 😭 And yes, it's basic respect isn't it?! Plus, now he's done it once I just know he will try and do it again and say oh but I took her last time. 🥴 Thank you for your responses guys. Xx

How would he be feeling if she was not secure in the car, had an accident and she was seriously injured?
He would have to live with the consequences!

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