Emotional abuse

It’s been pointed out to me that what I’ve been experiencing in my relationship is emotional abuse. After a year and a half of manipulation and gaslighting, things are finally starting to make sense, but it’s also overwhelming to process.

What makes it even harder is knowing that from the outside, he’s seen and known as such a kind and good person and I’m afraid no one will believe me. Right now, I feel completely drained, like I’m carrying a constant weight, with this tight, anxious feeling in my chest that won’t go away.

I’m still trying to find my footing and understand what comes next, but I needed to say this out loud. 😔

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You cant understand and your are not meant to. Its for them to do the reflecting and you to do the healing.
Its hard but find your joy again

Honestly if it’s draining you and not helping you mentally, emotionally or physically then it’s not for you at all. Stress will eventually be the death of you.

It’s so important to focus on yourself and put yourself first no matter what. You are enough and if your gut is saying no then usually it’s because the answer is no. You should always be sure about your partner, although no one is perfect but they aren’t treating you how you would treat yourself then unfortunately that’s not right and that’s not love. Love shouldn’t have you hurt and confused.

Always choose yourself because YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Even if people don't believe you it doesn't make it untrue. People have never experienced it just don't get it either. It's very common to be seen as kind and gregarious, it's a mask and pr but privately be totally different.

I felt that way and started having panic attacks when I saw his car drive past to park. When he left I just felt relief. It takes time to recover from. But you can recover from it. You are stronger than the relationship makes you think and feel you are.

Sending a virtual hug x

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I feel so bad.

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