Sleep/general help

My daughter is very attached to me which obviously is fine as I’m her mother and I love that I’m her safe space however it’s getting unhealthy for me. Just looking to see if anyone is in a similar place.

She’s an absolute angel for others and one of the most polite and well behaved children for others so I constantly get comments about how she can’t be hard. However, when it’s just us it’s pretty much hell. Constant meltdowns and poor behaviour. Don’t get me wrong she can also be very loving and she will use her manners etc but generally not. It’s to the point that it’s like she’s ‘masking’ even infront of her dad. He’ll leave the house and then the meltdowns begin. Or if there’s anyone around, she’s totally fine and within minutes of leaving, it’s meltdowns again. It’s like she saves everything for me. It feels more than the normal developmental thing.

She is also a nightmare at bedtime it’s taking me an hour to get her to sleep and she’ll only go to sleep for me. I’ve tried everything to reduce this and literally nothing helps. She also wakes in the night for me and I have to sleep in her bed or it’s a major meltdown and we have a 6 month old aswell so I literally can’t push back on her because it’ll wake him up. Tbh it wouldn’t even work as she would end up in such a state. My parents had the kids on the weekend and she slept until 8am and didn’t wake once shouting them or no one had to sleep in her bed. It’s so draining. I barely sleep when I’m in with her because her bed hurts my back and she regularly smacks me in the face or pokes and prods me throughout the night 🫠 it’s also getting earlier and earlier. Used to be around 4/5 and it’s now before midnight. I’m getting next to no time in my own bed.

We’re waiting on someone contacting us about the sleep/behaviour but just in the meantime.

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