Sometimes I feel like I did when he was gone

I can sadly relate to this as well mama. Part of me regrets allowing him back because history repeated it self. I'm a mom of twins with special needs and live with my dad who had a stoke/hip surgery last year. I just need help, but even asking for that from him seems like too much. I understand that work is hard labor and hard on the body, but I also need help with the kids. It's almost like he's asking to be a live in provider without having to engage, parent or make time for the relationship. Starting to withdraw emotionally.

I’m sorry your going through all of this alone with no help,~ for your dad do you have any family that might be able to help? My aunt we were so close she had a stroke about two years ago and after that she needed a lot of help from me and even though as bad as I wanted to take care of her in my own I realized that I couldn’t so I reached out to family for sum help and that’s what it took it took all of us putting whatever problems we had with each other aside and just show up for my aunt. It’s hard work……. As for your babies he needs to at least help with them. I really hope he starts helping you out. My grandma use to always tell me if you’re doing everything alone you’re better off being alone…. I’m here if you need somebody to talk to….

Unfortunately we do not have any fam that can help. My bro who use to help us a lot with this type of stuff. He was a caregiver and would often step up. He passed in Feb 2020. My dad's side ofnthe fam is very estranged. free to inbox me. That way we can stay connected. Idk who you are or where to contact you since this post is anonymous.