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I personally wouldn’t even mention the weight but focus on the issues behind why she is emotionally eating. Will she talk to you about how she’s feeling or accept therapy?
Other than that cook healthy meals and suggest going out for walks, swimming, doing a new activity without mentioning her weight. Hope she feels better soon x

I have a 13 year old boy and I was very concerned with his weight and his mental health and what has worked is trying to get the family to be “healthier” we make a point to go ok walks in the woods or walks around us we have gone from sweets to healthy sweets with less calories and have started about a plan for us to get fit and healthy for the coming summer so we can feel comfortable in our bodies

It makes complete sense that you’re feeling worried supporting a young person through self‑harm, suicidal thoughts and emotional eating can feel incredibly heavy. You don’t have to manage this alone. It may help to speak with your GP or a mental‑health professional so you have guidance and support tailored to your daughter’s needs.

With emotional eating and body‑image worries, try to focus less on food or weight and more on how she’s feeling. Many young people use food to cope when things feel overwhelming. Keeping communication gentle and non‑judgemental, ‘I’ve noticed things seem really tough lately, and I’m here if you want to talk’ can help her feel more understood and less ashamed.

If at any point you’re worried she might be at risk of harming herself, please reach out to professional support straight away.

You’re not alone in this, and reaching out for help is a really positive step.

Find ways to connect with your daughter as that can reduce the shame associated with emotional eating. You can set up a 'feelings corner' in your house. This corner can have soft blanket, cuddle toys, earbuds with music, stress balls. The goal is connection with her not correction. Invite her to choose one daily activity such as walking, journalling, any other hobbies she likes. Reduce any shame based sentences so 'it sounds like anxiety is being loud today. ' instead of 'you're doing x again'
Remember you can always reach out for help.