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Inlaws vent

So there is an age difference between me and my man(im the older one😉)
And his mom just doesn't get it. Everything is my fault, all our decisions about adding to our family(2 before him, 1 with him), etc
We were living at his parents since our son was born and late April we had a miscarriage. I had finally felt like I could talk about it with her because she said that I was always feeling sick and maybe get checked by my doctor. I finally told her about our first ultrasound.
It was a normal day(had some spotting early april) our ultrasound was on the 12th. The tech. Couldn't see a 12 week4 day baby and wanted to double check with a vaginal ultrasound just to make sure that it wasn't in a weird position, etc. I knew that something was wrong because I have never "spotted" with my other pregnancies. Got the call later in the day to tell us that we had miscarried. Our baby stopped growing at 6weeks4days. So I had a missed miscarriage.
So back on my "mother-inlaw"(we are commin-law), I straight up told her on why I had been sick for the past couple of months. And ended it with that we miscarried. She started to yell at me, clapping her hands and told me to get the fuck out of her house. We moved in 2 days. She had sent me a text the next morning, apologizing for how she reacted but didnt say that I could stay. No support, nothing.
Now I know that I have more heart than her because of how my bf tells me of how him and his brothers we raised, also I have seen it. Nothing is special, loving in that family. Even birthdays. Its called cake that no one eats together for, etc.
So later in the day, I brought our son down from his nap, and he was all over his grandmother. She had asked on if I saw her text. I had replied that I had but im still pretty upset atm. She said well if you want to talk I can try and listen. Well, she gave me all the power to bitch about all the time I have lived there. I pretty much made her realize that she had been pretty shitty of a person. She didnt say much other than "okay, and go on"
This woman takes online seminars and courses to be a help couch...but she cant apply her teachings to the loved ones she's around.

There is so much more that I haven't said about how it was living there for 1.5 years. All the side comments, hate, glares, etc.