Advice washing baby clothes!

First time mum! I'm just starting to wash clothes, muslins etc for the little guy and wondering whether I should be using special baby detergent? And is fabric softener a no go? Any advice appreciated!

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Also FTM - i don’t think there’s actual scientific musts on this, nhs says:

Washing your baby's clothes
There's no evidence that using washing powders with enzymes (bio powders) or fabric conditioners will irritate your baby's skin.
- but I’m gonna use fairy non bio with fairy non bio fabric softener which is stated as safe for babies - but I always use this cos I have eczema and get irritated skin really easily.

Personally, I am using a non-bio detergent but no softener, but everyone seems to do it very differently. Most babies don't have any irritation anyway . I am ironing all the clothes, though, to make sure any detergent residue is removed and any bacteria is killed - I think the dryer can do the same job

I use fairy non bio with the same fabric softener and had no issues x

I use non-bio with softener for all clothes. Only no softener for towels and cloths. X

I’ve always and still used fairy non bio xxx

Thank you so much for asking this question because I was asking Chat GPT yesterday and still didn’t have a clear answer 🤣 I ended up buying Fairy non-bio and I’m glad I did as that seems to be general consensus! X

Hadn’t even thought of this! Thanks for posting, I was going to start washing this weekend so glad I’ve seen this before starting!

Thanks so much everyone, really helpful 😊

From trial and error with my 2 previous babies I’ve prefer fairy non-bio.

My son had no reaction to whatever but my daughter has sensitive skin and reacted to other soaps. I ended up washing the whole households stuff in non-bio as it made the most sense. Plan on doing the same with this bubba x

Fairy non bio detergent, softener and the scent booster they smell insane I use them now for my 2 year old continue to do so with little one too X

We started with fairy non bio for our last baby, then moved to any old non bio around 5-6 months. Did use any fabric softener though. We have a water softener/filter machine on our water mains though which I think helps.

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I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

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