Being a step momma is not always easy.

Step daughter wants to sleep in my bed and use my bathroom and I just need some space that’s mine. Hubby says not allowing her in our bedroom won’t fly but we will sure as shit see about that. At this point he’s lucky I even let him sleep in the bed with me.
We don’t have her too often maybe half the week or less and she’s 5 in a couple weeks.
She has a private bedroom and bathroom that is hers only. She is very vocal that she demands privacy. I told her as long as she’s using my space she can’t have any. Because MY stuff is there and I’m going to get it when I need it. She needs to start using the space we set up for her.
The more hubby pushes back on letting me have what’s mine the less I want to do with either of them.
I cannot sleep in clothes anymore and I’m not letting a 5 year old sleep in my bed and cause me more discomfort than I already have going on with my own body. I need this little space that I have for me. Honestly I was done with this codependency before pregnancy but the way I feel about it has amplified since my pregnancy began 2 months ago. Most kids I’ve cared for are sleeping comfortably in their own beds by age 3. She has always had her own room.
I flipped out and said “im sacrificing my once perfect body to have this baby for you the least you can do is give me the space I’m asking for. Or I will find someone else to meet my needs” …..

I know very dramatic but that was the push he needed to get on board, he’s not happy about it. But I am finally getting my needs met. He wants me to be the bad guy so damnit I will be the bad guy if it means I get peace and comfort in my own house.

If she’s old enough to know she needs privacy she’s old enough to sleep in her own room. That’s not too much to ask is it ? Can I not have the next 7 months to myself. The baby will be here soon enough and we will have it in our bedroom and I’ll be up all night feeding and changing anyway. I just want to get good sleep because I know I won’t get any when that happens. Am I the asshole for needing her to get tf away from me and my space when it’s time to relax?

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

Sleeping bag

8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

Has anyone died their kids hair a fun color and have any recommendations for kid friendly hair dye that actually works and stays in the hair for a bit? 👀👀👀

She has 3b brown hair and wants kpop demon hunter purple