to have Sex after gave birth

Hey girls, I’m 43 days postpartum and I’m a bit scared to have sex with my husband. I had a second-degree tear with stitches, they’ve healed, but it still hurts a little. We’ve tried once or twice, and it’s still uncomfortable. He really wants to, but I’m not sure. Any advice or tips?

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My advice would be that if he loves you enough he will wait until your body is healed and ready! People have needs yes, but they should still love you enough to put you first especially after you birthed his child. Maybe stick to no literal sex and just the pre show activities :) x

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I agree with Grace. 10000%. I wasn't ready to have sex for almost 6 months. I also had a pretty significant tear, 8 or 9 stitches, and it was uncomfortable. Make sure you use lots of lube when you decide to go for it!

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Wait 100% until your body is ready

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Wait. You’re not ready from how you’re sounding, you also have a wound inside you the size of a dinner plate there is no rush whatsoever.

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