Scared to be intimate

I’ve hit 6 weeks pp with my first and have my OB check up next week. I have had no desire whatsoever to be sexual in any regard and am nervous about starting that again. I still have felt off and on sore ‘downstairs’ (didn’t rip thankfully but had some internal stitches). My husband has very high libido and has been so patient through this entire journey and I don’t want to make him wait longer than needed. Any advice on moving forward with this to those who have experienced this before?

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I had a c section with my first and even that was weird a new feeling. Just know it’s not going to be the same and that’s okay. Take your time. If you need more you need more.

All the lube and don't try doggy for a while lol

In my experience, the first time being intimate again is always uncomfortable and I have waited usually 7-8 weeks at the very least before trying. Breastfeeding and hormones don’t help and if you have any pelvic floor issues this can contribute and most women do end up with some pelvic floor dysfunction postpartum. With that in mind, just know that it can take a while for sex to be as enjoyable as it was in the past and that can be normal. You just had a baby and that comes with so many changes so show yourself grace and know you’re not alone ❤️. Pelvic floor therapy helped me a lot when I was experiencing pain with sex and can help in so many other areas of your life as well.

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