Challenging behaviour

My nearly 5 year olds behaviour has really declined over the past few months. She simply does not listen to us, is really rude, ignores her dad when he's talking to her and is constantly annoying her younger brother. When she's without her brother, she is amazing and she's so good in school but at home, she's just really badly behaved and constantly attention needing, any attention is good.
I initiate games and activities with both children but the minute I leave the room she hurts/annoys her brother or is sabotaging the game in some way.
I've tried so many things- sticker charts, working towards charts, positive praise, spending individual time with her. I'm at my wits end with it as it's making our family home a really negative and draining place to be at the moment. Any advice please? X

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Fed UP

I just feel so fucking agitated at the moment. I have 2 under 2 and one of them is autistic. So we have daily meltdowns etc. I'm up at 6am every day and don't sit down till maybe 10pm. I'm doing absolutely everything for them & the only break I get is going to the gym but I'm out for an hour max. As soon as I'm home I'm straight back at it, I don't even have time to shower.

My partners great but I don't think he has any fucking idea just how hard it is being with 2 small kids every minute of the day, managing appointments & the house. I'm starting to resent him. I'm snappy & miserable.

I resent my dog. He stinks & keeps malting everywhere. He's old so keeps shitting in the house.

The kids have kicked off for me all morning, yet as soon as he's here its calm & I look dramatic.

I'm not enjoying being a mum cos I can't cope with the constant stress. I've got adhd and autism so I'm overstimulated very quickly.

I've had ENOUGH.

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... When i look at my husband

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Ugh been together for 8 years & married for 4. Hes a rock, my blessing & the love of my life...

Anyone else feel like that about their person?

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I need advice!!

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