Challenging behaviour
My nearly 5 year olds behaviour has really declined over the past few months. She simply does not listen to us, is really rude, ignores her dad when he's talking to her and is constantly annoying her younger brother. When she's without her brother, she is amazing and she's so good in school but at home, she's just really badly behaved and constantly attention needing, any attention is good.
I initiate games and activities with both children but the minute I leave the room she hurts/annoys her brother or is sabotaging the game in some way.
I've tried so many things- sticker charts, working towards charts, positive praise, spending individual time with her. I'm at my wits end with it as it's making our family home a really negative and draining place to be at the moment. Any advice please? X
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Talk to her about it. Ask her why she is hitting her brother. There is a reason behind her behaviour. Once you know then you can fix it.
Maybe you guys are spending too much time or showering too much love on the younger one and not her, as she wants attention so she isn’t getting enough to begin with.
You need to set boundaries - be firm (not rude) and remain calm and be empathetic.
e.g
say ‘we don’t speak rudely in this house. When you speak nicely then I will listen to you’
tell her ‘if you won’t listen to dad then he won’t be listening to anything you have to say’
say ‘we don’t hit each other. Use gentle hands’ and show her to stroke the brother’s arm etc. and then redirect to something else once she understands.
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