Does anyone else have a really shy and timid toddler. My little boy is 22 months old now and he’s so withdrawn and reserved. He gets really upset and overwhelmed if people approach him or even if people make eye contact with him sometimes he just looks down and runs back to me. Sometimes we’ll go out and he’ll just ignore that people are there and enjoy himself but some days he just can’t let go and he’s so hyper vigilant of everybody around him. The other day we have some friends round who have children the same age and he’s met them before, but he wouldn’t come in the living room where they were for a good 20 minutes. I can’t help but think I’ve done something wrong and I feel so terrible for him. I feel terrible leaving him at the Childminder she only has two children which he doesn’t mind and he has got used to them, but she takes him to a playgroup and says that he just doesn’t settle there at all 😔 sometimes noises really bother him. He has every single noise and wonders what it is and sometimes even the sound of aeroplanes were really spooked him out and then he’s really thrown off then and can’t enjoy himself.
Any tips or advice would be really helpful for how I can help him come out of his shell and know that the world isn’t scary
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Talk him through all the sounds?
I have a train that goes by my house and my little was scared of it at first. But now when she hears the bells ding she goes to the window to watch it go by.
Same with airplanes we can see, birds noisey vehicles. I take a moment to let her look and explain what it is.
She still gets thrown off my firetruck and ambulance a little because we dont get to see those go by as much.
He could be a little bit on the spectrum. Or just very sensitive ears. My little is shy in new spaces. It takes her about 10-40 mins to assess the room. She stands with me in the corner as we assess together but once she's approached by another kid she most of the time warms up and looks to me to give her the go ahead signal.
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