Any tips on a newborn who won’t settle in next to me crib?

Everything you are saying sounds normal. They are so new they don't know you are separate people yet.

Initially we did it in shifts so one would sleep for a few hours then swap. Other option is to look up safe bed sharing.

Other things you could try are holding baby for 20 minutes before trying to place them down. Feet first then bum up to head. Keep a hand on them after to get them settled.

"Wear" the bedsheet under your top before putting it on the bed so it has your scent. Slightly warm the bed first to take the chill off before placing them in.

It’s so hard, I remember it! We ended up taking shifts at night time as ours would only sleep on us also. Lasted for a week or so; then when she started taking more milk it all settled down a bit. Early days are just about getting through, you’re going really well. Maybe try popping him in there to have a wiggle around in the day so he gets used to the space x

This sounds really normal, but it doesn’t mean it’s also not super hard!! Often newborns at this age will sleep better during the day, try and get rest then if you can! And you can check out the Safe Sleep 7 from La Leche League.
Everything is a phase and this will also pass in its own time. Sending hugs!

This is super normal, I recommend looking at safe cosleeping options. We started cosleeping from 3 weeks until 6 months and it was a total game changer. Recommend looking at "cosleepy" account on Instagram for safe ways to sleep with your baby. Cosleeping is the norm in most cultures around the world, it's only unsafe when you're not prepared for it, for example falling asleep by accident whilst your baby is on you, or falling asleep on a sofa where there's lots of suffocation risks. Prepared, informed and safe cosleeping can be a complete life saver 🙌

Totally normal-
I’d recommend trying the above options (like wearing the bed sheet/ putting some breast milk on the bed sheet so it smells like you etc) but honesty we found it was only really helpful as our children got older.

I cannot recommend taking the early nights in shifts enough- I know you’ll have the worst stint if you’re solely breastfeeding but your partner could hand baby to you for a feed, take baby after & burp & resettle to sleep on them etc.

I used to sleep 8-2 and my partner would hold our daughter, then we switched and I’d do 2-6. (The one with baby would stay downstairs and out of the way so we didn’t wake our toddler).
We’d both still attempt to put her in the Moses basket but if it didn’t work we’d just sit with her downstairs & watch lots of telly! 😂

All very normal as people have said, but doesn't make it any easier. Do not add anything to babies crib, baby loungers are not for safe overnight sleep.
Do you have a carry cot that is safe for overnight sleeping? Needs to be well ventilated and a certain internal depth in order to be. This helped us a lot in the first few weeks as babies aren't used to such open spaces. It is more enclosed and keeps them cosy without having to add anything else in with baby making it unsafe.
If not, taking it in turns to hold baby while they sleep is the best thing, they do settle in their cribs eventually, they're just so new at 3 days old.

Sounds normal I'm afraid!

How is your baby on car journeys? You can pick up a pram rocker like Rockit or Zed. This may help baby sleep in the next to me for slightly longer?

As others have said, its normal. Being an outside baby is HARD. Try mimicking the womb environment with a swaddle and white noise. Once you get him in the swaddle, snuggle him to get him to settle then you should be able to lay him down more easily

Try looking at safe co-sleeping on the lullaby trust website. Our little one all of a sudden went into her next to me when she was about 6/7 weeks. Take your time and be patient. It does get easier!

Try a moses basket in the crib, sometimes babies find the space too big. Both of mine did until around the 10 week mark however slept fine in the moses basket inside the next to me. X

Hey lovely, I’m going through this too, my little guy will only go to sleep on me and if I transfer him to the crib, he always cries and sometimes they’re quite horrible cries. I can’t have him on me constantly it absolutely exhausting so I’m having to just comfort him when he does cry and I’ve started distracting him with toys or singing and it seems to curb the crying in a little bit and then can stop sometimes like he’s shocked out of it almost. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Just know that you’re not alone and it will change and it will get easier. It will pass it is just a phase. Definitely try and share things between your partner so you get a break and remember we can always step away for a few just to get our calm and breath back as long as baby is safe sometimes they just have to cry for a little bit. Thinking of you. X

Also, just to add to my comment my little guy recently found his hands and is sucking on them and his storm and that seems to comfort him a little bit. I don’t wanna give him a dummy so I’m leaving him at the minute to sort that out. However, I was wondering if your little one has a dummy and if it might help? I also agree with someone else on here who talks about the space may be a bit big. I’ve noticed that my little guy will go to sleep in the bassinet of the pram perhaps because he feels more snug and confined. Xx

As Emma said, try the Moses basket inside the next to me. Also try making it smell of you. Some ideas that I was given were: a baggy t-shirt I've worn over the mattress, if you're wearing reusable breast pads put the ones you're changing out under the mattress sheets so they can smell you (this worked best for my lo), place your hand on their head or chest, remain calm as apparently they pick up your anxieties and stress. Co-sleeping is also an option if done safely, but bare in mind transitioning to their own bed later on when older will be very challenging

I would co sleep. He would probably settle well then

My baby was the same, didn't like the big space in the next to me so we used a moses basket (it was actually the snuzbaskit which came with its own stand) and she slept much better in there.
I'd try a moses basket as a couple others have suggested. It doesn't need to be within the next to me, you can use it by itself.
We also used the love to dream sleeping bags which I think helped make her feel safe. Kind of like a swaddle but with arms up and not as restrictive.

My baby was like this until we got a snoo. Saved our life!

Moses basket and love to dream swaddle worked wonders for us, also transferring them very gently feet bum head once they have properly fallen asleep on you. We also did shifts for the first few weeks so we could both get some uninterrupted sleep x

I found with my 2nd and 3rd if you lay them on their side and settle them, and then gently roll them to their back they don’t startle when being layered down and would lay in the crib more

Mines 5 weeks old now and still will only contact nap! Sorry probably not what you wanted to hear. After a week of no sleep we started co-sleeping and it saved us. Have a look at the lullaby trust for guidance on how to do it safely. Then one night randomly about a week ago she slept through the night in her next to me and has been doing it ever since. We’ve not cracked day time naps though she hates being put down, I’ve started to use a sling round the house so I can get some chores done while she snoozes in there. Hang in there you’ve got this

Thank you everyone for the kind words and advice, definitely going to think it over and trial a few things!

I had this in the early days, had to contact nap, had it hard with breastfeeding but just stuck it out and also had to Co sleep pretty much from day one. We are 7 months now and it’s slowly getting better. We used swaddles and I got a sling to baby wear in the day time to his really helped x

Thanks everyone for the advice, we used pacifier for soothing 20 mins into sleep and swaddled with love to dream and it worked! Luckily pacifier fell out so we didn’t have to rely on it the whole sleep 👍🏻