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IT'S A POLL WORLD! 🙋🏽‍♀️

How do you deal with your husband being the problem instead of the in-laws?? 😒

My in-laws are currently in town visiting us, to see the grandchildren and catch up. Whiles here they have offered to help with a few mini house projects…. Great we have an extra pair of hands to help out with the LO.

My in-laws have a past of overstepping but I can quickly let them know that they are overstepping and they back off. My issue is with my husband… I would be having a private conversation with him about what we can do or how we can do something. And his respond would be that’s a terrible idea or he doesn’t want to waste his time on that. Then his mum says the same idea later on without knowing that I had already mentioned that yet and all the sudden my husband thinks it’s the most amazing idea in the world and that we have to do this idea his mum suggested. 90% of the time, I would point out to his mum that I also said the same thing and she would quickly be like “see both your wife and mother has the same idea, you should definitely do that”. I would think of a small house project and he would say that too much effort but his mum comes in saying we should rip out a whole wall and he all the sudden can do that. His constantly dismissing me and I have brought it up with him and he still does it. I have a great relationship with his mum, we think alike and are into the same sort of things. Sometimes most of my house projects ideas only happens because I would mention it in front of her and she would agree with me and all the sudden my husband is on board all because his mum thought it was a great idea.

Am at a point where I don’t even want to be involved in my own house projects if I’m going to keep getting dismissed by him… then he has the audacity to get mad at me when I don’t give my input for things!!! Make it make sense!!!