Would nursery tell you if your baby isn’t doing well at nursery?
My baby has been going to nursery for two months now. She is so upset when I drop her off , she barely sleeping there and she seem like a shell of herself when we pick her up.
When we are off work and spend the day with her she is so happy all day.
I just wonder the nursery teachers says she has settled in really well. But I’m just unsure because in the end the nursery is a business and they make money of us.
So I feel unsure if they would be honest with us, if they thought the nursery isn’t suitable for my bby.
Has anyone got experience where the nursery told you it wasn’t working and the baby is un happy ? Or did you go on your own gut feeling?
Thank you
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They will be honest. A very unsettled baby is very hard work for them all day so I don’t think they’d keep her there long term if she wasn’t happy. It’s a business but most nurseries have long waiting lists so they’d just replace your child with another (sorry to be blunt!).
2 years in my son still cries going to nursery but as soon as the gate shuts he’s living his best life! Some days even now he’s overwhelmed of an evening nursery day is a long busy day for them! Do you do some things in the evening to wind down?
Does she seem happy in photo updates you get of the day?
What Yasmin says, they'd tell you. They wouldn't want a kid that cries all day. Your daughter might just be sad about how much time you're spending with her. I'm talking about quality time, not changing the nappy or feeding, getting changed etc. How much quality time (playing) are you spending together each day? If the answer isn't at least a few hours, you may need to adjust your life to spend time with your daughter, make her happy at home
Yes they would tell you and ultimately they will probably be a bit more realistic about what not doing well is compared to us as parents - they will be familiar with the real warning signs compared to when a baby is just taking a bit longer to settle, whereas we will immediately want to fix any unhappiness. It sounds like she’s just tired and still adjusting. Could anyone else try a drop off and see if it helps? Once me and my partner starting splitting the morning drops and it wasn’t just me, the tears massively lessened.
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My baby has been going to nursery for two months now. She is so upset when I drop her off , she barely sleeping there and she seem like a shell of herself when we pick her up.
When we are off work and spend the day with her she is so happy all day.
I just wonder the nursery teachers says she has settled in really well. But I’m just unsure because in the end the nursery is a business and they make money of us.
So I feel unsure if they would be honest with us, if they thought the nursery isn’t suitable for my bby.
Has anyone got experience where the nursery told you it wasn’t working and the baby is un happy ? Or did you go on your own gut feeling?
Thank you
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