Just a vent

I hate to admit but I’m really struggling with my 11 month old little boy at the moment 😓
Everything seems to be a problem in his eyes, take something away he shouldn’t be playing with? Screams and throws a tantrum. Nappy change? Absolute carnage. Sleeping through the night? I wish, he has me up every 2 hours it feels like and we co sleep just to save my sanity. He wants to be held but also hates being restricted. It’s like I can never keep him happy for more than 5 minutes 🥲
His dad also works nights so I get no help really except on a weekend and even then it’s minimal.
I love him to death and when he’s happy and chatty it’s the most precious feeling but he is just so cranky and I find myself losing patience with him at times which of course turns into massive guilt.
I just needed to get it off my chest and see if anyone else resonates with this stage 😓🥲

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I feel like I could have written this! Everything is the same for my little boy, and he even started being so fussy with food, wont eat anything so I am even stressed about him losing weight. My sister said her baby went through a similar stage around 12 months and it quickly resolves, im holding out hope. Nothing usual to except moral support 💜

I have just been saying the last few days that I'm finding this the hardest age for everything you have said! It's the best in so many ways, but also bloody tough. You're doing great, as we all are! ❤️

My little boy is similar and weirdly I dont mind too much, probably because hes my second and my first was a girl- nightmare.
He screams to be picked up then pushes me away 🤣 I find that he's proper grumpy when hes teething but its not obvious hes teething - like the teeth are moving in position ready. Can you imagine how uncomfortable 😭 I use nelson teetha powder and honestly it helps him soo much. It has camomile in it which I think relaxes him a bit too. Just give him one sachet and he becomes a little bit more content. He does quite like playing with toys and remotes so if I give him a remote it really keeps him occupied for a bit.

Have you looked into his nap times as to why hes waking up every 2 hours?
My litrle girl used to wake every 20-40mins and I thought it was because of my husbands loud sleeping 🤣 so I put her in her own room at 10 months and it was a game changer. Wanted to do it this time round aswell but havent been able to due to room changes taking their time xx

My 11m old is going through similar I keep saying it's just the phase we're in! But gosh is it tough. X

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Was your kindergartner this ready??

Could your child do half this list? Or the entire list or very few?

When did your child start feeding themselves?

Hi! I've never posted here... I hope this is how it goes 🤣 I have 9 month old twin boys who love to eat. They eat table food, but have NO INTEREST in feeding themselves, unless it's like a big wafer. SOMETIMES they'll manage a few puffs. Otherwise they want to be spoon fed and/or pull my hand to their face with finger foods. When did your little one want to bring food to their mouth?

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I went to mess about on my partners phone on his ChatGPT and I seen two saved chats, one was him saying “I’m starting to hate coming home”, “a reason why I’m working so much is so I don’t have to go home”, it’s really hurt me that he feels he can’t come to me and share how he feels instead he has to tell an ai ‘yes man’ robot,
We have a 4 month old baby, I’ve basically been a single parent despite still being in a relationship, he says he has to pick up this much overtime to pay the bills but he works every single day, starts at 4am, some days he starts work at 4am and finishes around 8-9pm,
He also said that the dog at his parents house was going to be left alone overnight whilst his dad worked so he had to go stay there to watch the dog, I seen a message of his from his dad saying he wasn’t working so now im just starting to think he made it up as an excuse not to stay with us in the house.

I don’t know how to word this conversation with him, or if I should even bother attempt to have the conversation with him

Husband Met A Prostitute

I found out my I guess ex husband went to see a prostitute and had drinks with her. He claimed he talked about me … I would be an idiot to believe that’s all they did.

I told him to leave the home for a day. I kicked him out before when he disrespected me. This time, he didn’t come back. And I think it’s good he didn’t but my chest still hurts from it all. I just had my twins August 16th.. im like 40 days post partum or something like that. He left his expensive e-bike charger here. Idk how he’s working if he can’t charge his bike. It’s been four days since he left. I feel like he’s probably with someone right now. I mean it didn’t take that long for him to have sex w me when we first met. He even told me before he’d have sex with a new person to get over me. “He knows this way works.” My chest hurt but I try not to think about it too long for the twins sake. They need my healthy mind. I let some tears fall but I know not to let my chest sink too much. I really wanted a family. I didn’t want to be a single mom — but meeting with a prostitute?? How could I ever forgive that. And then he said she was a friend. Why would you save your friends name as prostitute, block her, and then delete the messages between you two. It all hurts so much. Would anyone want to play iMessage games or talk about life plans or something as a distraction? Wtf am I supposed to do. I just keep going one hour at a time. There’s only so much TikTok to distract me from my heart being crushed.

Would this upset you?

My boyfriend told me tonight that he thinks his life has gone down hill since 25. He’s 29 currently, we’ve known each other for 11 years but only got together 3 years ago when he was 26, our daughter was born in December when he was 28.

Today was my 25th birthday, long story short it was an awful day. Only my mom and my sister acknowledged it was my birthday, I couldn't leave the house because my car is currently broken and my boyfriend is prepping for harvest so he wasn't home until really late.

He asked me how it felt to be 25 and I said it was okay, he said “good, because it only goes downhill from here” so I said “do you really think your life has gone down hill since you were 25” because I thought it must have been a joke.

But no he was dead serious, he then explained to me that not just 25 he thinks his life has gotten worse since he was 23. Which honestly hurt because we got together and our amazing daughter being born has happened since his life ‘got worse’.

Im not crazy right..

Its not normal for your husband to only work, golf, play videogames, and or sleep? He literally only does that and rarely does anything with us (me and our daughter). Like today, he worked, actually gets off work early, but immediately gets a call and goes golfing, I say yes to all these things when he asks bc I want him to have hobbies or otherwise he'll mope. I hate he feels the need to ask but if he would actually be an adult and prioritize his family first, he'd literally never have to *ask* but just SAY hes going and I wouldnt give a fk. But when it comes down to it, I'll express how I feel and he says hes trying and hes sad all the time bc he misses so much time with her but when he has time hes doing only those things. Never asks me if I need time for myself or if we want to go do something. BUT. on the rare occasion he does ask, I HAVE to go with or he wont do it. So please name things ur partners to to be active because I'm at a loss.