Were you alone in the hospital your first night after delivery by choice?

I haven't been put in this situation but I wouldn't want to be alone personally. Just depends on your comfort level!

My first 2 was covid to I had restriction hence why he didn’t stay
My 3rd she was born early hrs of the morning so by the time I was put over to postnatal ward it was visiting tunes so he stayed my 4th I was in 3 nights he didn’t stay once ( wish he did tho I was so mentally drained from everything that happened:( ) my 5th he stayed the night he was born so only 1/5 of my kids did he stay postnatally on the ward at night

I didn't choose it - had my first baby in lockdown so he wasn't allowed to stay. But if we'd needed to stay in with my second I'd have chosen to stay alone so he could go home to be with our eldest. It would've been fine!

I haven’t been in this situation (yet..) but that’s probably what I would do. I wouldn’t love being alone, no. But my husband is the only person in my life that my son would feel comfortable with overnight and I’d be too worried about how my older son is doing if my husband couldn’t spend the night with him.

So I guess my only real input is that there’s no shame in using the nursery if you are having trouble getting some sleep being alone and solely responsible for your baby! It’s so hard to get sleep in the hospital so if using the nursery is necessary totally go for it.

I didn’t use the nursery at all when my husband was with us when I had my son. If I were going it alone I totally would have to use nursery.

I was in this situation and I chose to send my husband home to take care of our toddler. She was almost 18 months at the time. He was there for the birth and stayed with me until I moved from L&D to a regular room. It was the best decision for us. We had my sister in law watching our daughter during the birth. But, we felt better about my husband putting her to bed and being there in the morning for her. My husband came back the next day to visit us and then later on to pick us up at discharge. I have no regrets about it.

Absolutely not for me lol. I needed help with the baby since I couldn't move to get them myself. Plus going to the bathroom for the first time after my csection i always needed his help. And didnt like leaving the baby unattended while in the bathroom

The first time around I left my eldest with someone else so he could be present, I did nothing but worry and couldn't relax as it was the first time I'd left my 10month old. My ex arrived late so I was already crowning and I told him to stay home but he made that choice without me!

Idk but a nurse will act as ur husband and a lot of times they have nothing to do so get ur rest and ask them to watch over baby

Yes! Coz he already put his time off, and I had an emergency c-section, he only come before going to work and after work see us probably an hour and then go home coz we have a dog also! He was there during child birth and everything. 🥰🥰 i would not want my dog to be alone at home honestly.

Would have preferred him to stay but he would have moaned all day and night about how uncomfortable the sofa bed was, or how the other babies kept him awake all night. One of us needed a good nights sleep, he was likely to get it sleeping at home and he needed to go home to feed the cats anyway so made sense.

ETA: both my babies were in NICU for at least x2 days or more. So given that, he didn’t actually need to stay. I breast feed so he couldn’t have gone upstairs to feed either one (not got twins- both on separate occasions).

That’s up to you… personally I wouldn’t. The first moments, hours, of your babies life are so precious and the bonding is important but just for you and baby but also for dad. My husband always stayed with me the entire time except our fourth, he did go home to check on our elder three for a few hours and to be home with our youngest/present to our him to bed (whom had never spent a night away from us) but he was back quickly to bond with our baby and help me out.
It’s really up to you and what you determine is best for your children and fmailyo over all mama. If you feel confident you will be okay and prefer your husband home with your other children that is up to you. What will bring you the most peace? Is it possible for there to be some flexibility? You don’t know what will happen with each surgery/birth if there are complications or difficulties. Could someone be there for the twins and him be able to come back and forth as you feel needed after delivery?

In the uk from covid up until September this year , partners haven’t been allowed to stay over night unless your baby is delivered very late hours !

So first night wasn’t my choice to have him leave that was the rules . So glad it’s changed now as we’re having baby number 2 and hopefully I won’t have to stay overnight away from my first baby !

I sent my husband home at night both times. My first was a very traumatic labour and I needed him to do everything in the day time, I sent him home so he could get proper sleep (he’d have been in a chair by my bedside on a noisy ward otherwise). I had support from the midwives (close obs ward) so it just made more sense than us both being knackered and useless.

After my second I sent him home to be with our toddler. Our toddler had so much going on/changing in his life (including baby’s arrival) that I wanted him to have daddy there cos it was weird enough that mummy wasn’t.

It was fine. All of it was fine. I had loads of support from midwives after my first, and after my second (planned section) I didn’t really need the help 🤷🏼‍♀️plus I was only in overnight after my second!

If you're both there, you both won't get any sleep at night.

I sent hubby home so he could sleep and when he came back during the day, I slept (was in for a few days).

It was a challenge getting up for baby/toilet but you soon find ways to do it, and nurses can always help.

I have had two c sections, sent him home at night both occasions 😆 we had a long first Labour and I didn’t want him to sleep upright in a plastic chair, we both had a newborn and I needed him to be on top form when we got home and no longer had help from the midwife’s and health assistants we had in the hospital, second time we also wanted some normality in him dropping our toddler off at nursery in the morning.
Never felt like I couldn’t handle it, if I was struggling to put baby back in the cot while bed bound I would push the buzzer 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thanks for all of the feedback ♥️♥️ we decided since the C-section is in the morning, he will get his bonding time with baby during the day while I nap then he will go back home to the twins and I’ll have my own bonding time with her during the night. These perspectives really helped! 💕💕

My husband wasn't able to stay after my first as they didn't have anything available for him to sleep on (I was in a side room and they did try to find something), I was in for 5 days and he made the hour trip to me every morning and stayed until the evening every day until we came home. The first 2 nights our son was in the nicu so I was alone. I missed my husband so bad!

With our second he was able to stay and it was only one night, our eldest was at our house with my MIL as I went into labour in the middle of the night!