How to spice things up in the bedroom

So my sex life def isn’t boring. However I feel like I’m always the one doing the work… So back on my marriage before the man I’m dating now, I hated BJ’s. I Icked me! Now I love them with my new partner. I’ve also gotten into a new pattern when we do have sex, but like sometimes when we do it laws so damn long and I’m tired because he won’t finish. So my question is… what do y’all do to make yourself orgasm? How to make your man finish faster?

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My man finishes super quick so we usually start me off a bit earlier than we start with him eg he will go down n eat me or finger me or use toys on me etc and then when I feel like I’m ready to orgasm that’s when we will have sex or 69 etc! I find that anal makes me orgasm sooo fast lol especially with a vibrator on my clit at the same time🫶🏼

Yes girl! Use a vibe! Love the rose 🌹

So I’ve done anal with him and it did make me Orgasm soooooooo good

I feel this completely. I hated BJs before my man too but I didn’t start giving him them until after I gave birth. Like I need to know you’re going to be in my life a long time before I give you that piece of me. My boyfriend is average for how long he last, but it does take me longer. He will usually start on me with his hands or tongue and then have sex so we can orgasm at the same time.

I orgasm when I’m on top also I can orgasm during missionary with my boobs in his mouth

Try a vibrator and lube ✨ lube is key I’m telling u 😩

I take awhile cause I don’t really get sex much so I try to make it worth the time and enjoy it as long as I can but my bf basically cums so fast to sex but blow jobs he takes forever. I don’t get head or really any foreplay as he thinks it’s to much effort and waste of time. We stupidly resort to what he wants which is head and butt stuff but normally head gets him off just fine other wise it’s me and my battery powered friend. I’m not much help on this one sorry!

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

Looking for more same age friends!!

Hi! I’m 23 and a stay at home (soon to be) mom. I have been having a tough time finding friends/women in similar circumstances to mine and would love to make some if possible! If you feel the same, let me know

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Am I the only one that thinks blowjobs are boring?

Hi Mums

I live in New Zealand and I’m really keen on finding a regular best friend to chat with. It’s incredibly lonely. I love Australia and I think it would be fantastic to have friends there. If you’re comfortable with long-distance friendships we could meet up in New Zealand. I also want someone to video call because I currently have no friends every single day. I feel really lonely because I don’t have a nice family. I just want friends to become family one day and of course I need to trust them first which is why I’m making this post. I just got married 🥹👰❤️

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this