How to deal with baby dads girlfriend

First of all girl, you are being way too nice to a girl you don’t have to be nice to. Do not have her on socials, keep your distance from both of them keep it strictly about the kids and nothing else. You said he was abusive, I would be surprised if he isn’t the same way with this girl, feeding her insecurities so she doesn’t like you maybe? So you can’t tell her about all the awful things he did to you and if you do she won’t believe you, right?

My advice, keep your distance. Be mindful that their relationship could be toxic and how that could affect your children, be very aware of the little things they tell you when they visit. For communication, I believe there are apps that can monitor parental communication - look into it. Thirdly, is there a court order for visitation? If not, you have the right to restrict access if you need to. You are the primary caregiver.

How old is your son?

Seeing as they have only been together less than half a year I'd be pretty weirded out them having your son call her that. If it were something long term maybe an alternate parenting nickname. I just would hate to have her in his life one minute and gone the next. You know? Idk. Personal opinions I suppose. I do have to say she clearly has a lot of insecurities. I was that girl once. My ex and I got together about 5 months after he split from his son's mom. At first I really was jealous of her. I had several miscarriages and wanted the kind of connection they had. But until I got over it, I wasn't able to even be happy with myself. Once I finally got there, she wasn't even ready to accept it because she was only used to my being insecure at that point. So she didn't take me seriously when I wanted to be loosely involved by getting him things like school supplies (clothes) and gifts for his birthday or Christmas when my ex couldn't. So... idk. I kind of see it from both ends. Not condoning her actions though.

Honestly I don’t recommend interacting with the girlfriend period. Your child is so young and their relationship is still new. Your son should not be calling her mommy. I think you should set boundaries and have a conversation with your baby daddy. You only laid down with one person and it wasn’t her. Maybe it would be different if it had been a way longer period of time or if she was his wife but that’s not the scenario.

Honestly if he can’t respect that I wouldn’t even have the son around her without being present. You don’t know what he’s being exposed to and it’s confusing for a child to be calling two people mommy ( and 1 of which might not be there long term).

That's just being petty. If she really is insecure then she should know how it feels and shouldn't use someone else's against them. Sounds like she is just being an over the top person. I'm seconding the setting boundaries and if they aren't respected then I wouldn't have my kid around her.

Oh hell no. I’d be pissed if my son called any girlfriend of his father anything besides her name. She ain’t done shit to earn that mommy title. At least not with my child. Fuck that!!!

God if my son was calling someone else mom id be so furious