Perspective on 2u2

My oldest was 19 months when my newest was born! My newest is now 2 months! It’s definitely trying at times😅 I liiiiive by my sound machines. Naptime, bedtime, everything, they save us. They’ve definitely pooped at the same time, if one is a blowout I deal with that first, otherwise I just deal with whoever is complaining more first😂 my toddler does indeed SOMETIMES cries when the baby cries, it’s more of a whine, I call it Bluetooth crying. When things get very overwhelming and everyone’s taken care of I’ll definitely pop in my AirPods, to weaken the sound. I’ll also take a few minutes in another room to simply breath if I know both are safe and sound.

It’s can be challenging because there older one is still very little. It’s near to and chaotic. I try to remember that these are the “days” I’ll look back on, so, amongst the tiredness and constant stress, I try to stop and cherish the moments. I’m lucky both my children are good sleepers, however, know it can be more stressful if one or both are not. You just have to take each day as it comes and find ways to re-centre yourself when you feel overstimulated. Congratulations 🫶🏻

Its not that hard IMO.

Im 6 week old joins us at play group. Im already back to our normal routine because I had a very easy delivery.

If they wake eachother it happens. You do your best.

If they both poop at the same. You change whomever has the worse diaper rash sooner. Otherwise take your pick based on situation.

Yes they "egg" eachother on when it comes to crying. Sing to them or take a deep breath and or listen to the crying.

Many call this chaos. I call this life with 2 under 2. You roll with it.

We have a 25m and a 5m old. I second the white noise, it definitely blocks out household noise and them crying. They will most definitely cry and poop at the same time, you just learn to adapt and figure out what works and what doesn’t. My toddler is still jealous and will kick off most times, but she eventually gets over it.

I found the first 6 months relatively easy to deal with. We would get out every morning, baby would sleep and I could focus on toddler then when toddler napped I got time with baby. Bed time I dealt with baby and dad took toddler. I’m finding it much more demanding now youngest is 8 months. She’s needing more attention with weaning, sitting and rolling etc.
toddler is also firmly in the “terrible twos” fighting naps, tantrums etc
Both of mine don’t sleep thru night. Toddler still wakes at least once but dad will usually get him especially if it’s at same time as baby
It’s tough but the toddler now sees baby as someone to play with. He does silly things to make her laugh, try’s to give her a bottle and has started pushing her about in her walker (sooooo cute) so it’s worth it

I've got a 1.5 year old and an almost 3 year old and I've found it's not the 2 under 2 that's so hard, it's when they're both toddlers. Any stage with a newborn is hard from what I've seen with my family who space theirs out more.

Currently going through this !