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My 11 year old talks back, grumbles and always kind of argues with me. It has made me so tired of being a mother. Advice please.

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I’m having the same issue with my 11 year old.

I have no advice other than I was always told between 8-14 you love them, but you don't really like them. It's been true so far. Love my daughter but she is a lot, sometimes more than the toddler. It will get better, I try and remember how I was as a preteen and I apologize to my mother.

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Thank you everyone

These 11-year-olds are no joke. A lot of my friends out here who we share daughters the same age all day, the same . By far harder than a newborn.

So it's not just my kid!! Draining

Im glad mine is not the only one. I just keep reminding myself this too shall pass bc man some days are so hard

I have that too but I quickly keep telling her to stop talking if she does i have to take something each and every time. I tell hwr you will have nothing except ahat you need since you have so much to say. A yes and do it will suffice.

Take the iPads or phones away. No way not under my roof.

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