Question for parents that bed share with crawling/standing baby

So this is our sleeping setting. Our baby sleeps in her cot for the first part of the evening. As we got the baby monitor, husband and I are in the living room spending time together after our baby falls asleep and sleeping in her cot. When we come to bed later in the evening, our LG usually wakes up like an hour later or as soon we get to bed. So we decide to bed share with her. As we are afraid that she might fall as she moves lots while sleeping, in the spare room we got on the floor 3 single mattresses where we 3 sleep together comfortably. Baby can move around in her sleep without falling etc.

Now, she is currently teething. It's been hard to put her to her cot, it's been taking us 2hrs to make her fall asleep. I'm sure if she is next to me sleeping she will fall asleep faster than in her cot. But I don't want to move to the spare room in the first bit of the evening because I cannot leave her alone there for me to have time with husband downstairs. (And we really need that time).

If you bed share from the beginning of the evening and your baby sleeps in your bed from the beginning. What is your setting for your baby to be safe in your bed in case you are not with them? Do you have rails in your bed? I don't want to leave my baby crawling freely in the room when she is alone (as the mattresses are on the floor)

Any advice is welcomed.

TIAx

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I gave up with the cot a long time ago. My baby sleeps in bed with me from the beginning. More recently, I’ve been able to come downstairs for a couple hours.
I breast feed him to sleep on my bed. I have bed rails but they’re not very high or safe I don’t feel. So anyway I ended up dismantling the cot and my husband was just playing around with the dismantled sides of the cot and wedged them between the mattress and bed rail. I’ll attach a photo. It’s not the most perfect set up but my bed is super king, I always position the duvet and firm pillows strategically. I have the monitor on and if he goes out of view I go up straight away. He has a lot of space! My husband is in the spare room. I sneak into bed as carefully as I can, sometimes it wakes him, sometimes it doesn’t but he wakes frequently anyway.

Can you just watch the monitor and go back to the room if baby wakes?
Can baby crawl in their sleep sack?

Oh fairplay to her🤣 if she slept in bed from the beginning could you then just watch the monitor to take some time? And go straight up if she wakes?
Is there a reason you wouldn't want to leave her on her own on the floor bed?

I go to bed with him. It's hard because I'd like that time to get jobs done or spend time with partner but he wakes up often, especially if I leave the bed and I don't feel safe until he knows how to safely climb out of bed. I know it's a phase that will pass. I do have the cot attached to the side of the bed but if he wakes he starts crawling to the other side and he is a very quick crawler. Bed rails are not considered safe until after 18 months. If you can do a floor bed then this is the safest option (we don't have room) as they won't hurt themselves getting off the bed, you'd just need to baby proof the room then could use a baby monitor.

We have a TV in the bedroom so I watch TV in bed and partner comes in sometimes for us to watch together.

Im in a really similar situation. My LO only nurses to sleep. I lay with her on our bed and can usually slip away. Luckily, she doesn't crawl or move much in her sleep. I put the monitor on her. We have a superking bed against the wall with no bed rails. She tends to cry as soon as she wakes, and sits up. Looking around, like mum where are you?!

She often wakes every 40-60mins or so. I haven't notices her go much longer. I feel the pressure of never having much relaxation time. I think i would feel better about it knowing if its just a phase. I love being able to provide her comfort, but that time together as a couple is important.

I don't know what i would do if she started to move more in her sleep. I wake to every little move at night. I miss sleep 😂 but im glad our bodies are designed to wake this way, as i know i dont need to consciously think about it.

I wonder of i could be doing something to help her go longer stretches.

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