Abandoned and pregnant
My partner left me (12w pregnant) 2 weeks ago, he emptied our shared apartment of his belongings and proceeded to ghost me. He has been in touch three times since, once to apologies and twice to say he does not want the baby. This is all completely out of character and I could not have foreseen this, or I would not be pregnants i have decided to go ahead and do this alone, but it is very hard, still very shocked, no idea what is going to happen with mutual bills etc. Has anyone been in a smiliar situation?
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Seeing as he has left you. Your best bet is to go and talk to the jobcentre about universal credit. As a single partent you will be entitled to help. You can also sit with the DWP and there are childrens charities that can help you with all the paperwork.
Ive done it all on my own. I dont even have a support network. So im sure you will be fine.
Good luck
I’m sorry you’re going through this. From experience as this is exactly what happened with me & my child’s dad, it’s a shit situation.The great news is, you don’t actually need him. Yes it’s nice to have a partner and a dad for your little one so you can pee in peace, eat normally rather than inbetween tasks, however your child is worth every bit of it I promise.Ihad to move back in with my oap mum who I love yet can’t help with the baby due to her illnesses.
Yet every day I get it done & so will you in abundance.Choose your battles, social media will tell you that you need to be doing X & Y &Z. It’s all a myth,that they create for views and likes. Go at your own pace,your baby will navigate you through it.
Take loads of pictures, get all your friends involved, lean on them for support,you will need it. Most of all, trust yourself &you will be fine.
Something I always tell myself is men used to have to go and hunt or go to war,women bought up the children, you're going to smash 💥
My partner also left me at 12 weeks. He wanted the baby and I wasn’t sure. I decided to continue the pregnancy and currently 34+1. It’s been a tough pregnancy, both physically and emotionally. He wants to be very involved in the baby’s life but during and after the relationship, he was abusive and also has dependency issues. I feel i need to do most of the parenting alone to keep baby safe but also don’t want to fully exclude him. It’s been a long and hard journey but the end is in sight and I’ll have baby girl in my arms soon. But how things will pan out for me and my ex, ie visitation etc, I don’t know.
I’d recommend getting some therapy if you’re struggling with your mental health and rely on your support network, as this really helped me come to terms with the abandonment issues and accepting I would be a single mum (always my worst fear)
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