Does anyone else’s kid do this?

My little one is 3 and as time goes on she’s not listening as much anymore. It doesn’t matter what it’s about, she will literally just say no to me every time. Even when it’s normal things like me: would you like a drink?(in a very lovely happy voice) Her response: NO!!(which we call demon voice lol). She has started to do little weird habits too like before bed she will take things out of her room and either chuck them down the stairs or throw them into our room. She has this wardrobe which is closed with a door on one side, that’s where things are hung up and then the other half is like open shelved. She empties the clothes from the shelves every night and puts them in my partner and I’s bedroom. So everyday I have to re sort the clothes and tell her not to remove them. Which never works.

Feeling completely burnt out. She refuses bedtime all the time no matter what. She always wants to come into our bed. Is this like a defiant period perhaps? We even got her a tonie box for Christmas because we thought she’d feel even more relaxed as she loves stories, we got her her favourite characters and she won’t use it for bedtime as she will ask us to take it downstairs(otherwise I can bet it’ll be chucked down the stairs). It’s none stop at the moment and then in the morning and throughout the day she’s extremely tired and moody. Then she’ll refuse a nap and it’s just like ???? How does she do this? It’s sort of amazing but I feel so bad. Is this something I can help or have I literally got to ride this through?

Any advice would be appreciated or simply to know I’m not alone in this.

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No advice but my 3.5 year old is the same. Demon voice and eyes in action. Won't eat breakfast, won't get dressed, can't get her out the door. Had some lovely activities booked over Christmas but she makes the mornings so stressful at times, I think why bother 🙈
No, don't want to, In a minute are frequently used by her.

She’s learning that her voice has power and that she can make choices- my suggestion is not to ask yes or no questions- tell her what you expect and give her two options that your ok with.
Examples:
I’m going to give you something to drink, would you like juice or water?

It’s time to put on your PJs would you like to wear the pink or purple…

It’s time for bed, would you like to listen to a story on your tonie box or shall mom/dad read you a story?

As for the taking things out of her room I’d tell her that she can put it in a box in the hall if she wants but that she will have to put it back into her room in the morning. And then ensure that she does the work of putting it back. (In the morning say something like we need to get ready for the day, would you like to first brush your teeth or put your clothes/toys back into your room).

Also remember that it’s our job as parents to guide our kids and part of that is having boundaries, consistency and consequences.

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