Until when can you be around children naked?

I know this sounds like a stupid question but basically my husband likes to sleep just in a tshirt and nothing else (says he gets too hot at night and gets nasty rash down there) - it’s not the most attractive look on him to be honest either but whatever works for him, right? However, we have a 4 (almost 5) year old little girl and when my husband needs a toilet at night or wakes up for the morning he goes to bathroom in just his tshirt with everything hanging out, then he has a shower and after that he walks around to the spare bedroom where he has a hair dryer plugged in to dry his hair - by now he’s naked altogether 😳 and only then he finally gets dressed - when I write it down like this it sounds like it’s a quick process but it isn’t, he takes ages doing everything so he spends quite a lot of time just sort of half or completely naked walking around upstairs (and not just in the privacy of the bathroom like me). And he does this regardless of whether our 4 year old is up and about to witness it all. He doesn’t seem to think it would be a good idea to put underpants on for the transit 🫣 is this ok for our child to see and up to what age? I mean the body positivity and all … I do tell him to put pants on when I see it but I’m fed up of saying the same thing every single morning- it doesn’t occur to him to do that by himself 😭Please tell me how can I resolve this situation… even if it’s ok for now still, it won’t be for too long I would imagine 🫣🥴

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I am not sure if there is a rule for this. The moment someone starts feeling weird or uncomfortable with it, it is the right time to stop.

I would ask him to put on trousers whenever he leaves your bedroom for common decency.

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I’m sure that will stop naturally when she starts pointing and making comments.

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I grew up in a naked household, parents walking around in underwear or buttnaked (usually my mom) and I think it’s something you just get used to lol The natural human form is nothing to be ashamed of. I’m the type to walk around in a big T-shirt and only underwear, but don’t do it as much bc I have a 13yo stepson. I think as long as your husband and daughter are both comfortable then that’s all that matters

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I think if she voices it’s weird or making her uncomfortable, he should stop.

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Thank you everyone xxx

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My parents used to walk around naked when we were growing up and we never had a lock on our main bathroom door so frequently used to be in and out when parents and sisters were in and out of the shower etc. We have always been confident and quite comfortable with bodies and body image and I dont think it did me any harm 🤷‍♀️

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That Pooh Bear look isn’t a good one lol

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Honestly, were a naked household until they're able to verbally communicate/ start school. Your daughter's age is the appropriate age for your husband to at least wear underwear. Opposite sex people should not be naked around opposite sex children. "Normal" or not, "getting used to it" or not, it's weird and I never enjoyed or was okay with that being a norm. No child should know what their parents look like underneath their underwear. I can understand whatever you wear to the pool/beach/lake, but if you wouldn't feel comfortable with a stranger doing it, why would you allow it for your child, just because they're "family". That's just my opinion though.

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Maybe get him a robe if he doesn’t have one already or tell him if he wants to free ball he has to wear a Moomoo or something long your daughter might be used to it by now but kids talk alot for no reason you don’t need her mentioning in school or daycare that her dad doesn’t wear pants at home

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There’s such thing as a dressing gown. He needs to have some decency as a grown man and cover himself up wtf. Takes nothing at all.

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