Anyone else in the same boat? I’m a SAHM, my husband complains about doing chores & childcare…says it’s my job, I’m inefficient & lazy & praises himself when he does anything.

Make sure to do things for yourself

"look how daddy cleans the house" because he ran a vacuum for 10 minutes? What does he want, a medal?

This is so common problem I read all the time daily. You should sit down and talk to him when everything is calm.
In my case, took me a year to finally my husband stop all this complaints above your mentioned with lot of arguments but at this end he gets to understand me.
Maybe you can explain him better lovely and kindly way AND use what lots of women advices me is leaving your baby for at least a few hours and he will see this work!

lol so does ur Husband want a medal or trophy for doing what he is supposed to do. Some men are so dissapointing. Bt long story short & to answer ur question; No some men take pride in being needed around the house & they are involved in childcare. It’s their job too. Moms will never be the same as dads, because women always get the short end of the stick! We, as women will always be doing more work so him Complaing abt parenting his own kids & cleaning up after the family that he chose to create in a home were his family lives is wild! What does he want u to be; a maid?
Please stop stressing urself with the labor, & let him handle it. Or better yet get rid of him, he is prolly one of the reasons why ur beyond exhausted.

How was this man raised ?

i’m not a sahm, i work full time and still my husband complains about doing chores if he has to. says it’s my job and mil agree to it. she will behave like only he is tired and she won’t acknowledge that im equally tired. i work full time and then do chores at home too while he would lay on couch or play with our kid.

I’m a part time worker as it’s slow season and being pregnant is taking a toll on me now but I do just about everything cook clean I’m primary parent of my son I take care of the pets I get my son everything he needs I pay for what I can with my money and that’s majority of mine my pets needs and kids needs clothes and some extras. I tell my bf I feel like I’m doing it alone and I clean and do laundry and all bathe the kid do the dishes fold the laundry vacuum throw the trash feed the kid make the bed wash the blankets get the toys take him to the store with me everything. He says he cleans and he does the man cleaning not the actual cleaning that needs done. He doesn’t really throw trash he’s never cooked for me once in the 4 years we been together he rarely takes the baby a bath he rarely walks the dog he don’t refill the food he don’t cook for the baby he plays games goes to work drinks we don’t have sex he don’t wash he don’t do dishes maybe like 2 times a year he does.

Mine isn't as bad as this, I'm also working full time but he whines if I ask him to pitch in a bit more and makes it seem like cleaning up is mainly my job. He is good with taking care of the kids at least, as I work in the evenings he's with them by himself every day.

If my husband acted like this I would set him up a gold star system since he wants to act like a child

Start saving your money so you can leave him.

I’m a SAHM and my husband is an equal partner. Being a stay at home parent is beneficial for the whole family. If I was you, I would get a job and make a plan to leave.

My dad was and is this guy. Nothing my mom did was ever good enough. Still isn’t. People like this hate women. Their wives included

U see this shit a lot on this app. Its common. Tbh they arent going to see outside of this without stepping into your shoes and this may never happen unless u put up some serious boundaries or get sick.
So....
Whats it gonna be?
Don't be a victim. Imagine what u want. Really think about what u want. Don't focus on him he was likely raised by idiots if he calls u lazy and inefficient.
Hes projecting cuz hes the one who is all those things.
Focus on u. Focus on what u want. Not him. Don't give him ur energy. Keep it for you.