Husbands going on boys trips

You’re his partner, and child’s mother. Regardless of Whatever everyone else feels…if you’re upset and voice you need him, as a man he should be understanding and accommodate that. He still got to go and have fun, this is just going to affect his future vacations and make things harder in the long run. In my opinion.

My husbands best friends wife planned it like 1-2 months before they went.

Completely valid I think. My husband went on a week long trip to Hawaii. We have 4 kids and I also work from home. I know it’s good for our family. But Hawaii?! I’m from Hawaii so it was extra frustrating. I bit the bullet and worked and watched the kids the whole time. Now I have two trips planned for this month. Flying his mom in to help with the kids. Anyway, I don’t think your the ass hole. Your feelings are valid imo.

It can be scary to leave your babies behind. And it is something I had work up to. Baby steps. But momma needs a break too.

To be clear I don’t have an issue leaving my son with family but I’ve never been invited. None of my mom friends go on trip like these. He goes on these at least once a year. I voice my concern but he just says he should be allowed to have fun with his friends.
He’s the only one I want to go on a trip away from my son with, I don’t have a group of girlfriends to go out of town with.

If the trip is all planned and paid and tickets purchased you are valid to still be annoyed but I think direct the annoyance to when he gets back and plan your own weekend, actually, plan it NOW, for the weekend after he gets back so both weekends are planned and paid for. He can go go to his, come back and work and you will have yours to look forward to. If you don’t want a whole weekend plan the Friday night out, or the whole Sat off and go to an outside spa w massage or lounge on the beach or look for an event to go to- whatever you want. Baby isn’t “baby” anymore he’s a toddler now 21m I know you said he hasn’t looked after the toddler much but maybe it’s time to start. Tell him “go for your weekend but when you come back Ima have mine”. It’s fair, and will help w your burnout and you will be less resentful.

I asked him to plan us a date night for when he got back but he still hasn’t done that.

I think your not feeling valued and that’s totally reasonable! How would he feel if the roles were reversed. I’m sorry your husband isn’t thinking about this all the way around. I wouldn’t want a girlfriend of the guys to be there if it’s truly a “ guys weekend”

I think you should plan a weekend to get away even if it's just at your family's house or a hotel in your city. Just rest while he realizes how hard it is to do what you do, and hopefully it will help him put things into perspective the next time they have a boys trip

If it's important to you, then tell him to plan a date night again. You shouldn't have to tell him more than once, but you do here. This time when you tell him, set some kind of boundary around it (i.e. I won't do until you plan a date night), so that he understands that a date night is as important to you as X thing is to him