Making friends

I’m struggling to make friends online and in person, before having children, I had loads of friends close and mutual. I had a couple of best friends that we did nearly everything together with at the time as we were living in the same house but they hurt me badly where I noticed one of them liked and was trying to get the attention of my ex (boyfriend at the time he was also abusive) he was also playing on it and then suddenly after we all had an argument, the other one also told him something untrue to make him be angry at me and it ruined everything because those two were closer with eachother than me, i also had a friend who was more of a party friend before being pregnant and as soon as I announced my first pregnancy, she stopped talking to me which basically happened with all my mutual friends. Anyways, i don’t trust anyone on a friendship level anymore and now im in a better relationship with someone else + 2 kids with him. I’m just so scared of opening myself up to friendships when ive been through hard times with friends especially other women.

Is there anything I can do to stop feeling this way? I do enjoy being at home with my first born while pregnant and my boyfriend is my best friend but he also has his own friends so I just feel a bit lonely lol

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I can completely relate to this. Recently I’ve felt the same which is why I’ve got this app to try and find new friends. I’ve been hurt in similar ways in the past and ended up pushing everyone close away from me. Since being pregnant I’ve been having dreams of all my past friendships and also my dad (who I don’t speak to) and it’s made me feel very lonely realising that I don’t really have any friends anymore. I don’t want my boyfriend to feel the pressure that he’s my only person and I don’t want my baby girl to not have play mates just because I struggled to make friends. I wish I had some advice to help you but I’m also looking for how to get over this, I’m hoping this app will help in some way ❤️

Completely understandable! Those people were horrible to treat you that way and not other friends! You didn’t deserve that.
Therapy particularly IPT can help.
Easier said then done but don’t let the arseholes put you off.
Have you done any antenatal classes?
Suggest meet ups with people on here!
Put yourself out, if they saw no that’s their loss. Most people are decent an will happily be friends just worry about initiating it
Baby classes can help once they are as well :)

Omg I have similar experience please give me message , my realtionship hasn't been the same since my best friend at the time spread some lies and then copied my bf engamennt I v been struggling last 4years with damage she coursed me I dont talk to her anymore . I'm so angry inside I won't go into full detail but nothing in my realtionship has been the same since im at dead stop to be honest but I fully understand what the hell whole you been going through worst feeling that someone can put you trough and I dont trust anyone more I keep myself in the house all the time my socail media shows otherwise . But honestly I dont go anywhere I dont want to speak to anyone or say anything . Please talk to me when you can I know what you are going through im all ears 👂 hope you get through this im going through similar situation.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️