Traumatic birthing experience - venting
Hi ladies š„°
Iām a FTM and had my baby in November. I found the entire experience quite traumatic and just want to vent in a safe place if possible.
I had a routine 36 week scan and thatās where it all went a bit wrong. They said my girl had dropped to the 16th percentile and Iād have to be induced bang on 37 weeks. I opted for the rods (didnāt work), then they broke my waters and gave me the gels, then had to stop the 2nd dose of gels as short staffed so couldnāt progress my labour even though I was having mild contractions. I restarted my gels on day 3, broke my waters again as there was fluid left behind, and put on the hormone drip. I made it to 6cm dilated before babies heart rate started to drop and before I knew it, I was being wheeled in for an emergency c-section. I had my girl at 37 + 4 weeks.
The next few days Iāve blacked out completely and canāt remember. My baby was in the NICU for days on oxygen, feeding tubes, antibiotics etc. and I donāt even remember meeting her. I was also on IV antibiotics and had to stay on a separate ward. Days later a midwife told me my placenta was sent off and positive for Strep B which is what my little girl had too.
Anyway, sheās now 7 weeks old, home and thankfully thriving ā¤ļø I was so traumatised that I told everyone, including my partner, that I was one and done. Iām still traumatised but I donāt feel our family is complete, but Iām terrified of childbirth again.
Anyone else been through similar and had a more positive experience 2nd time around?
Thanks for letting me get it off my chest š«¶š»
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Strep B is awful and the lack of support in maternity is appalling. But please dont make decisions on having further babies yet.
Allow yourself time to heal .
Knowing you had strep B they will be more diligent next time around you will also have antibiotics whilst in labour and if you prefer you could always have a section.
But for now focus on you and baby. Processing the last few weeks and allowing your self time to heal and bond.
I'm sorry youve gone through this as a mamma who went through it too 18years ago I know exactly how yiu feel x
I fully agree strep B should be a standard test! I truly believe my first pregnancy went wrong and we spent a week in hospital because little man got an infection they couldnāt quite pin point! They even did a lumbar puncture at 2 days oldš
Second pregnancy I coincidentally went in as I thought my waters had broken early (they didnāt) turned out they found I had strep B, which if you have in one pregnancy is very common in the following! Baby 2 was born absolutely fine with no infections as antibiotics were administered at the right time!
It should be standard.
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