Anyone doing it completely solo with no child support?

Long story short, getting child maintenance isnt possible.
I gave e birth to my baby a week ago and im very stressed all of a sudden of how we are going to manage. Anyone else been in this situation and have soem encouraging words/stories?

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I am! It’s hard but I recommend child support so you can get help from the state incase you need help with daycare when you do decide to work. The father of my child doesn’t pay the child support he was put on and owes a lot.

I am ! Solo parent since pregnancy, no child maintenance. I won’t lie, it’s tough, but it will be so super rewarding and you don’t have to share any of the joy 🤗
More than happy for you to message me if you’d like to. I’ve got a 10 week old 🤗

I am, ive been a solo parent with no CM since pregnancy, my LO is almost 3 now. Its hard but its not impossible, and honestly i find it alot more peaceful. I work full time but that isnt essential, for me my career was very important and ive been lucky to find something i enjoy.
As a single parent with no finacial support from the other bio parent, you can get significant support with childcare costs. Up to 80% can be covered. I have my own place but you can get social housing alot faster if needed. Id recommend looking into what your entitled to. Theres no shame in getting goverment support for these first stages in your childs life, its what its there for xx

Same no cms and my daughter is 4 months old. Been split since I was 6/7 months pregnant.

I’m solo, with a 4 year old and 7 year old, no child maintenance for 4 years and I’m about to go to court for the 3rd time! Waste of space he is!x

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Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
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